Independant Women

Originally Posted by BanannaMan

Independant women are great!!!
Been married to one for 25 years (as of 19 June this year).
We've always "done our own thing".
And only had one bank account but it's never been a problem.
She doesn't need my permission to buy a new outfit anymore than I need permission to buy a new lid (helmet).
Of course major purchases bikes, cars, are mutually discussed but that's a not a problem either.... because we're not just 2 independant people...we are a couple too!!!

Oh and..She can cook!!!! LOL

But she couldn't 25 years ago... so there's still hope for you Shelly!



Like others mentioned...the key is being able to let someone into your life while maintaining your own independance....and that is true anyone not just women.
Of course the hard thing is finding a like minded person in this world of people who play mind games, control freaks, drama freaks, overly jealous, bums, deadbeats, the list of crazy's goes on.....and on....and on.

But hang in there... the right one will come along.

Sounds perfect.... Congrats on 25 years

Originally Posted by neio79

acctually i have changed my stance!! WTF are these women doing either out of the kitchen, or bedroom. Has there been an unusually long batch of chains made??

now all of you "indipendent" women get yourselves back n the house where you belong, stop getting ideas above your station regarding thinking for yourself and having your own iterests.

If you bloke likes golf, you must also. Simple. Know your limits!!!!!!

oh......sorry.......

Heading to the kitchen......ummmmm.........nah, I'd rather head to the bedroom.

Originally Posted by BanannaMan

Originally Posted by gettin2dizzy
Any woman who has do define herself as independent I'd keep away from It's such an American thing to analyse your life and categorise yourself in to said groups. Personally, I like a girl who just gets on with it and doesn't give it a moments thought Having your own house, car, career etc can only be a bonus.







You have overlook dizzy...he has an "Americanism" for every occasion....



But deep down we know he really loves us....
(and is just jealous that we have better roads, cheaper petrol, and no logbooks)

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Originally Posted by BanannaMan

Like others mentioned...the key is being able to let someone into your life while maintaining your own independance....and that is true anyone not just women.
Of course the hard thing is finding a like minded person in this world of people who play mind games, control freaks, drama freaks, overly jealous, bums, deadbeats, the list of crazy's goes on.....and on....and on.

But hang in there... the right one will come along.

Thats what I did - and we got married last month - couldnt be happier!

Originally Posted by Shellywoozle

And Grinch that's one thing I don't do, cook ... can't cook won't cook LOL (OK so not the indepedant)

Originally Posted by Speedy Claire

Also she wants someone who can cook......... not a lot to ask for is it? lol

Well if you find a man that can cook then do it together, learning along the way then if he ain't the right one at least you've got tips for trapping the next one

Originally Posted by neio79

acctually i have changed my stance!! WTF are these women doing either out of the kitchen, or bedroom. Has there been an unusually long batch of chains made??

now all of you "indipendent" women get yourselves back n the house where you belong, stop getting ideas above your station regarding thinking for yourself and having your own iterests.

If you bloke likes golf, you must also. Simple. Know your limits!!!!!!

Pmsl, that sounds dangerously like something YC would post



Hope you enjoyed your jollies Shelly

[Sid Squid]

Originally Posted by Shellywoozle

Question for the guys ..... do you like independant ladies or do you feel intimidate by us ?

Why the two polarised options?

Surely there should be a third, and I feel the one that most people would choose:

I don't care.

Don't take this wrong, I'm not saying that people wouldn't or shouldn't care about you, but simply why would they care about your circumstance? Whether people find you attractive, (not necessarily in the physical sense), would be more relevant, no?

Originally Posted by Sid Squid

Why the two polarised options?

Surely there should be a third, and I feel the one that most people would choose:

I don't care.

Don't take this wrong, I'm not saying that people wouldn't or shouldn't care about you, but simply why would they care about your circumstance? Whether people find you attractive, (not necessarily in the physical sense), would be more relevant, no?

Hmm. Tricky.

Whilst I agree with Mr Squid, I think he worded it badly (must be a first!! Either that, or I read it badly...).

The "I don't care" is, IMO, an "I don't care if someone is independant or not." That said, an independant woman is, for me, more attractive than a dependant one. But there are also varying degrees of dependancy, and the extent to which a person is dependant (or not), isn't really high on my list of things to look for.

Definately a difficult subject, attractiveness. Seems easy on the surface, but is far from it.

Originally Posted by BanannaMan

You have overlook dizzy...he has an "Americanism" for every occasion....



But deep down we know he really loves us....
(and is just jealous that we have better roads, cheaper petrol, and no logbooks)

hehe. I'm certainly jealous of a few things you yanks have. However you owe us big time for 'Will & Grace'!



As for you women, you all expect the bloody world nowadays. The more you give, the more they expect.

Bah! Sick of the lot of you!

I meet a bloke once who seemed to like my drive, motivation, indepedance. We did lots of competitive sport etc and it was all fine ..... until I got better then him at stuff (eg mountain biking)!

We also lived together for a while and it didnt take me long to realise that he was slowly starting to try and control my thoughts and behaviour ... by telling be that I 'must be stupid' if I thought this or that for example ... generally trying to undermine me, unless I was agreeing with him. It became apparent that he actually didnt like it at all, and although he found it a challenge to become part of my life, once the challenge was complete, he then wanted me to 'simmer down!'

Am now with someone who would not want to change me, let alone dare try! So my opinion on this is men dont know what they want, until they have it

Originally Posted by Jamie Slick

oh......sorry.......

Heading to the kitchen......ummmmm.........nah, I'd rather head to the bedroom.

LOL, good girl, ill join you virtually LOL