How do you get them to move out from home?

Originally Posted by Richie

get her married off to some who lives far far away....

lol !

[Bluepete]

Originally Posted by Richie

get her married off to some who lives far far away....

Come on Tim! Post a pic, I'm sure the .org can find a gentleman willing to help out

Pete

[Dave20046]

make them feel clostrophobic

We did the rent thing with my stepson from the day he dropped out of college and started working.

The spin my wife put on it was to stash the money into an acount to help fund him moving into his first house - but we never told him about it.
So he thinks we're being very generous but it is his money - nice!

TW if you go down the rent route I suggest that you start fairly gently as it's going to be a bit of a shock for her, but agree up front "inflation" ie every year on her birthday for example the rent goes up.

There will come a time when she will work out that it's cheaper to move out than stay at home

[Viney]

Originally Posted by timwilky

Pay, now there's an idea.


Mum, lets start charging her board and lodging

You mean she lives there for free!! Cricky, no wonder she wants to stay. I was paying £280 to my mum every month before i moved out.

im 21 and have payed rent since i started work at 16. As my pay increased i wasnt asked for more money, i offered it as i knew i was still getting a good deal! Now in process of saving for a deposit, bad times

[Swin]

I joined the RN at 16 and a bit, so I didn't stay at home long after finishing school, but when I moved back in with my mum after leaving the service I paid rent right from the off, even though I was sleeping on the floor in the living room because she'd got rid of my bed

It was an incentive to get a place of my own though, I only stayed back there for 3 months and got a place of my own!

I don't have kids, but based on what my parents and my friends' parents have done, I'd say the following is the solution:

Start charging her and make it enough that it's "market rates" for rented accomodation. Once there's no financial incentive to stay, she'll probably go. If she still claims not to be able to afford it, demand to see her bank statements/finances: If you're subsidising her in any way and she wants your help, you have every right to. Make your own judgement on whether or not she really can't afford it, or if she just "needs" more money for going out on the sauce or buying new shoes. If the former, work out a budget with her and take a slice of her earnings in rent. If you can afford to (from the sounds of it you're more concerned with her being in your house, rather than the finances of it), stick some, if not all of the money she's giving you in some form of savings account. After a couple of year, surprise her by putting down the deposit for her on her own place using the money you've saved from her rent.

Needless to say, if instead it turns out that she could afford to move out, don't hesitate in giving her a month's notice.

[punyXpress]

TW if you go down the rent route I suggest that you start fairly gently as it's going to be a bit of a shock for her, but agree up front "inflation" ie every year on her birthday for example the rent goes up.

There will come a time when she will work out that it's cheaper to move out than stay at home [/quote]

Think Tim's hoping she won't be around for too many more birthdays ?
If any.

Originally Posted by speedplay

pay for her to go on holiday and then move while shes away.

Haha!



Does she have a job yet? My cousin returned from university last year i think, and being in his 20's i thought it was strange him still being at home. But how can he afford to find his own place just after finishing a degree with no job. Does your daughter have a full time job?