How do you get them to move out from home?

+1 to the comments about making her pay. Charge her so much that its not even worth staying at home anymore. It would make me want to move out...

[SoulKiss]

I paid rent from when I started working - admittedly my folks were not too worried if I had to miss a payment due to unexpected expenses - like new tyres on the car I needed to use to get to work etc, but only essentials.

Just tell her to go, no scheming, not plotting, no making life difficult for her, just be honest.

You could always downsize the house too - seems you have at least a 3-bed, look for a 2-bed if you still feel the need for a guest-room or even go 1-bed - if doing that pays off the mortgage and so frees up more "fun" money for you and the missus every month then even better

[Dave20046]

Become a nudist

[Viney]

I would just like to add Tim, that i didnt move out until i was 36!

[KnightRider]

There seem to be lots of nice parents here. My mum told me that I would have to start paying rent, food and bills from the moment I went to Uni. Yes she was going to help subsidise me a little but only on the condition that I had job at the same time.

Even though I didn't have to move away for Uni I still deceided to leave home as I wanted the freedom.

I would suggest you take a multipronged approach:
1. Come to an agreement with you wife as nothing above will work unless you both agree a plan.
2. time to get her to start paying 1/3 of all bills
3. make sure that she is doing her fair share of all house chores like cleaning etc. Ensure that you are not helping her out by doing her washing etc.
4. seperate your meals and food shopping. She pays for her own food and cooks her own food. Obviously Sunday dinners etc can be an exception.
5. seperate your lives a bit. The living room is yours and in the evening make it clear that you want your space and that she should watch TV in her room.


I am in a similar situation at the moment except it is my girlfriends Dad who has moved in with us (due to money issues that he is having). We manage this by seperating our lives completely. Yes he moans that we treat him like a lodger but in reality that is what he is and we dont want him with us forever. Alas he is not getting the hint and is not making great strides to saving a deposit to move out.

Note to self - time to start talking about moving house so he realises his time is up.

[Dave20046]

Originally Posted by KnightRider

There seem to be lots of nice parents here. My mum told me that I would have to start paying rent, food and bills from the moment I went to Uni. Yes she was going to help subsidise me a little but only on the condition that I had job at the same time.

Even though I didn't have to move away for Uni I still deceided to leave home as I wanted the freedom.

I would suggest you take a multipronged approach:
1. Come to an agreement with you wife as nothing above will work unless you both agree a plan.
2. time to get her to start paying 1/3 of all bills
3. make sure that she is doing her fair share of all house chores like cleaning etc. Ensure that you are not helping her out by doing her washing etc.
4. seperate your meals and food shopping. She pays for her own food and cooks her own food. Obviously Sunday dinners etc can be an exception.
5. seperate your lives a bit. The living room is yours and in the evening make it clear that you want your space and that she should watch TV in her room.


I am in a similar situation at the moment except it is my girlfriends Dad who has moved in with us (due to money issues that he is having). We manage this by seperating our lives completely. Yes he moans that we treat him like a lodger but in reality that is what he is and we dont want him with us forever. Alas he is not getting the hint and is not making great strides to saving a deposite to move out.

That sounds perfect for both partys.

Just use the tactful line... "Look B!tch, F**k off"

Ohhhh this one is easy and the current news could help a lot.....

One night when its just you and your daughter wait for the news to mention the 'Joseph Fritzel' case. Then slowley turn your head towards hers and mutter 'mmmmmm daughter in a self contained underground flat....mmmmmmmmm'

She'll be out by the morning.

Originally Posted by Odin

Ohhhh this one is easy and the current news could help a lot.....

One night when its just you and your daughter wait for the news to mention the 'Joseph Fritzel' case. Then slowley turn your head towards hers and mutter 'mmmmmm daughter in a self contained underground flat....mmmmmmmmm'

She'll be out by the morning.

Might work though

Originally Posted by _Stretchie_

Daddy???

he paid me back over 6 months and hasn't since asked for any help