my god im crap

[Wideboy]

i can't strike up the balls to ask out a bird, how crap am i :(

spoken to her twice as she works down the chippy, had a bit of a convocation with her but just ain't got the balls to ask her

I've run it through my head, just going to come right out with it and ask her, but in front of all them people :smt095

think i will do it Wednesday as im out the country on thursday encase it all goes wrong :)

wow im crap :(

[Baph]

What do you have to loose?

If you don't ask her, you'll never know. I've been in a similar situation in the past & kicked myself for a VERY long time over it (it would of meant moving to Aus for a year minimum & working over there).

If you do ask, and she says no, well, you tried, she's not interested. Take the turn down gracefully. If she's worth it, keep trying it on, you'll get there in the end.

99.9% of relationships don't last the test of time anyhow. Life isn't for having regrets...

[mrsgid]

i can't strike up the balls to ask out a bird, how crap am i :(

spoken to her twice as she works down the chippy, had a bit of a convocation with her but just ain't got the balls to ask her

I've run it through my head, just going to come right out with it and ask her, but in front of all them people :smt095

think i will do it Wednesday as im out the country on thursday encase it all goes wrong :)

wow im crap :(
nah its a hard thing to do. Women can be really nasty people when they want to be. I speak from experience as i is a women myself. If you want to ask her out that much then just go in there and do it.

[missyburd]

And if she turns you down the first time then keep trying, do not give up if you think she's worth it. Obviously if she really doesn't like the attention then back off, but if she gives you a little encouraging smile she might just be playing hard to get and giving you a bit of a test ;)

Like mrsgid I am also female - just incase you were wondering :lol:

[cuffy]

:DAsk her much it is to fillet ;)


This post was bought to you by the power of Efes and Raki at 1am turkish time. :drink:

[markmoto]

What do you have to loose?

If you don't ask her, you'll never know. I've been in a similar situation in the past & kicked myself for a VERY long time over it (it would of meant moving to Aus for a year minimum & working over there).

If you do ask, and she says no, well, you tried, she's not interested. Take the turn down gracefully. If she's worth it, keep trying it on, you'll get there in the end.

99.9% of relationships don't last the test of time anyhow. Life isn't for having regrets...

well put baph

[K]

Ask Kinvig...



... oh, hang on, she's not a builder. ;)

[hovis]

my god im crap in bed:(

try dying your hair

:kiss:

[Wayluya]

i can't strike up the balls to ask out a bird, how crap am i :(

spoken to her twice as she works down the chippy, had a bit of a convocation with her but just ain't got the balls to ask her

I've run it through my head, just going to come right out with it and ask her, but in front of all them people :smt095

think i will do it Wednesday as im out the country on thursday encase it all goes wrong :)

wow im crap :(

Yeah, I know that one :p:p:p

Ask her out - but keep it light. ie don't start off with an offer of Opera tickets and a black tie candlelit dinner.....and give her the chance to indicate no easily - but do not be put off from the Chippy by a polite decline, make a game / joke of it and just wear her down every time you hit the chippy.

A mate gave me some advice a few years back which he swore by, but I have yet to put into practice as I was fixed up with the late Missus by then......he said - if asking a starnge woman out the first date should be in the daytime so fix something up for the afternoon, preferably with something "Going on" to help the conversation and to create "a shared experiance" - the thinking being non threatening for her as in daylight! and she knows she will have plenty of time for an easy opportunity to make her excuses well before the kicking out time / legover moment could arise......even if it is a posh restaurant........

Of course 10 Vodkas and a bag of chips of an evening has also been known to work......

[ThEGr33k]

Im a pussy when it comes to this too. :(

I think im getting better but ive always been shy. It'll come with time! How old are you? <- don't matter found it. You say you want a TL1000? Are you MAD!? :p

[ThEGr33k]

Of course 10 Vodkas and a bag of chips of an evening has also been known to work......

Remembering it might also be on the agenda... :rolleyes:

[pencil shavings]

Im 23 and I have NEVER asked out a stranger. So dont worry, in the words of Michael, you are not alone....

So im not really in a possition to offer advice! Sorry!

[thedonal]

Hey think in perspective here-

Worst comes to worst, is there another decent chippie nearby?! :D :D

[Demonz]

Hey think in perspective here-

Worst comes to worst, is there another decent chippie nearby?! :D :D

+1

Or consider chinese food.

[Tiger 55]

Chippy bird - "Anything else?"

You - "Yeah, fancy a swift half down the Winchester sometime?" (Big smile.)

Easy as.

Notes:

1. Vague in the future 'sometime' prevents 'washing my hair' get out.
2. If your local is not called the Winchester amend accordingly.
3. What's the worst that could happen? You could die!

[Wideboy]

think im going to do it today, going past there this afternoon and im just going to pull it, walk in and ask her straight up, will be on the bike so a quick getaway is possible :D

my god im crapping a brick sideways :???:

[Wideboy]

heres my plan.

me walk in "so you fancy going out sometime?"

[ThEGr33k]

heres my plan.

me walk in "so you fancy going out sometime?"

I think it might be a good idea to start a little small talk first... Just blerting that out will shock her and she might panic and just say no. ;)

[missyburd]

heres my plan.

me walk in "so you fancy going out sometime?"
"do you fancy going out sometime" might be better or even "would you like to go out for a drink sometime", you're coming across a bit cocky there, like if she said yes she-would-be-doing-herself-a-favour type thing :p

[Wideboy]

ok how about this then, bearing in mind i don't want to buy any chips as i don't really like them and I've only been eating them to pluck up the courage to ask her :rolleyes:

revised-

pull up out side, helmet off, walk in, walk up to her and say "basically I've been wanting to say this for a while and im a whimp so hear it goes, do you want to go out for a drink or something sometime?"

:roll:

[missyburd]

well basically sounds like you just wanna get it over with and you don't need to dumb yourself down at the same time either. hmmmmm how about "I've been wanting to ask you for a bit now, but I don't like chips :p...would you like to go for a drink sometime" hahaha

ok I'll shush now, just go in there and be yourself, the worst she can say is no int it?

[markmoto]

ok how about this then, bearing in mind i don't want to buy any chips as i don't really like them and I've only been eating them to pluck up the courage to ask her :rolleyes:

revised-

pull up out side, helmet off, walk in, walk up to her and say "basically I've been wanting to say this for a while and im a whimp so hear it goes, do you want to go out for a drink or something sometime?"

:roll:

Sounds better than "do you want to go out sometime!" be bold dude!

[ThEGr33k]

Sounds better than "do you want to go out sometime!" be bold dude!

Yes bick your hair :cool:

[Wideboy]

well they open at 11:45 so i've got 40 mins to syke up.

i managed to syke myself up enough last night but rolled out of bed a few mins ago and though WTF am i doing :mad:

[markmoto]

well let us know how you get on wideboy good or bad! plenty more fish in the sea ;)

[missyburd]

hehe it'll be FINE! whether you fluff up or not, she'll be flattered at being asked out by a biker - I would! At least you've got that going for you :p

[Wideboy]

should i give her my number and get her to call me?

i reckon that if all goes well and she give me hers I'd stuff it up, its taken me 2 weeks to get this far

[blueto]

i can't strike up the balls to ask out a bird, how crap am i :(

spoken to her twice as she works down the chippy, had a bit of a convocation with her but just ain't got the balls to ask her

I've run it through my head, just going to come right out with it and ask her, but in front of all them people :smt095

think i will do it Wednesday as im out the country on thursday encase it all goes wrong :)

wow im crap :(

ill give u some tips on thursday Gav.......:thumbsup: The blueto specials!

They include...

Did u know i was fred flinstone and i can make your bedrock!

You must be a spanner because every time i look at you my nuts tighten!

and the old favourite......

Hi,

If your not doing anything during the week fancy coming for a drink?

[missyburd]

should i give her my number and get her to call me?

i reckon that if all goes well and she give me hers I'd stuff it up, its taken me 2 weeks to get this far

yeah then she's in control of how she responds and can psyche herself up too :D Although then you might be as bad as each other :scratch: lol

[Wideboy]

ill give u some tips on thursday Gav.......:thumbsup: The blueto specials!

They include...

Did u know i was fred flinstone and i can make your bedrock!

You must be a spanner because every time i look at you my nuts tighten!

and the old favourite......

Hi,

If your not doing anything during the week fancy coming for a drink?


LMFAO!! know wonder you got a pointy :smt045, i thought wednesday would be a better plan as im going to be 100's of miles away thursday, but like baph said (i think) basically don't let it slip through you fingers, so im going to do it in a few mins :cyclopsani:

[kitkat]

heres my plan.

me walk in "so you fancy going out sometime?"


add with me at the end of that, its opening yourself up to "yes I do, but now with you".

dont keep going in all the time, she will think you are a biffer who cant cook for himself and eats chips all the time and will be 40 stone by end of the year.

Go in and ask for can of coke or something. mention its hot out on the bike (unless its obviously not and she will think you are a ****). Ask if there are any decent pubs around, if she mentions one, ask if she goes there, if she says yes, ask if you could meet her for a drink one night. if she says no just say ok and take your drink and leave. dont pester her, she will think you are a pain in the ****.

good luck

[maff]

im cr@p with women too...

tis why iv been single fo soooooooooooo long :(

[Wideboy]

well i think she like me but im crap with the language of women, they confuse the hell out of me lol

Edit: im just crap with women full stop

[blueto]

LMFAO!! know wonder you got a pointy :smt045, i thought wednesday would be a better plan as im going to be 100's of miles away thursday, but like baph said (i think) basically don't let it slip through you fingers, so im going to do it in a few mins :cyclopsani:

well keep us posted!!!!!!!

OOOOO this is exciting! Jeremy kyle eat ya heart out!

[blueto]

well i think she like me but im crap with the language of women, they confuse the hell out of me lol

Edit: im just crap with women full stop

what language is she giving off?

[Kinvig]

Ask Kinvig...



... oh, hang on, she's not a builder. ;)

Well, from personal experience....I find the best course of action is to buy a BMW & run away to somewhere like Kazakhstan..... ;o)

[Wideboy]

well one of my old mates works there and believe it or not he rides a curvy as well :rolleyes: so i started talking to him when i first went in there and basically it ended up with me speaking to her, then yesterday when i was leaving and saying bye to my mate, i said bye to her and it was returned and then out fo the corner of my eye and i kept looking at her thinking "shall i go back" she was watching me as i got in the car, than apparently she gave a little wave as i was driving off but obviously i want looking and my friend took it as she was giving it to him so he waved back :rolleyes:

[blueto]

well one of my old mates works there and believe it or not he rides a curvy as well :rolleyes: so i started talking to him when i first went in there and basically it ended up with me speaking to her, then yesterday when i was leaving and saying bye to my mate, i said bye to her and it was returned and then out fo the corner of my eye and i kept looking at her thinking "shall i go back" she was watching me as i got in the car, than apparently she gave a little wave as i was driving off but obviously i want looking and my friend took it as she was giving it to him so he waved back :rolleyes:

maybe she was waving at him?

the old glance eh.......PLease look round scenario!

Be a man u big girls blouse. Get of the blady PC and go and ask her out. Whn u have come back and tell us the good news...:smt057


What u waiting for....Go ion then!!!

[kitkat]

ooh she waved - she wants you lol

[Wideboy]

need to wait for them to open 1st, only down in the village so its not going to take ages to get there lol

[blueto]

whats the chippy phone number. Ill give her a call for ya lol!

[Wideboy]

ooh she waved - she wants you lol


don't laugh this is basically how i interperate (spelling big word for me ) everything :rolleyes: like i said im crap lol

[blueto]

don't laugh this is basically how i interperate (spelling big word for me ) everything :rolleyes: like i said im crap lol

women also like a man who can make them laugh. Just bear that in mind.

[kitkat]

don't laugh this is basically how i interperate (spelling big word for me ) everything :rolleyes: like i said im crap lol

uh huh. us woman are really not that different to you guys. stop treating us like different species. Just ask her out, if she says no, then fine you can stop dwelling on it and move on. the mind games etc will start once you are in a relationship :smt117

[kitkat]

women also like a man who can make them laugh. Just bear that in mind.

depends on how they make you laugh. if you laugh when they drop their trousers, its usually a sign of things to come (or not) ;)

[Wideboy]

right 7 mins!!! lets get pumped!! :rolleyes:

[blueto]

uh huh. us woman are really not that different to you guys. stop treating us like different species. Just ask her out, if she says no, then fine you can stop dwelling on it and move on. the mind games etc will start once you are in a relationship :smt117

But weigh up the pros and cons here. If it goes badly he may not be able to use his fav chippy anymore..

Why dont u women ask us men out on dates anyway if your not that different?

[blueto]

right 7 mins!!! lets get pumped!! :rolleyes:

deep bretahs gav...deep breaths

[missyburd]

just thinking WB maybe going to see her as soon as the shop opens aint that good an idea, it's a saturday lunchtime, is it not going to be really busy? get her when it's a bit quieter, then you will have her sole attention :smt045

[blueto]

depends on how they make you laugh. if you laugh when they drop their trousers, its usually a sign of things to come (or not) ;)

hmmmm:rolleyes: Then maybe they need to see a suregeon.

Thought it was quality not quantity with women anyway?

[Wideboy]

just thinking WB maybe going to see her as soon as the shop opens aint that good an idea, it's a saturday lunchtime, is it not going to be really busy? get her when it's a bit quieter, then you will have her sole attention :smt045

well they are usually really busy they best chippy of 2007 or something like that got loads of awards, i would have though 11:45 would be quite :confused:

[kitkat]

But weigh up the pros and cons here. If it goes badly he may not be able to use his fav chippy anymore..

think of the weight he will lose

Why dont u women ask us men out on dates anyway if your not that different?

we do

[blueto]

well they are usually really busy they best chippy of 2007 or something like that got loads of awards, i would have though 11:45 would be quite :confused:

4 mins... iexpect to see u offline

[missyburd]

well they are usually really busy they best chippy of 2007 or something like that got loads of awards, i would have though 11:45 would be quite :confused:

dunno, you would no better than I lol, just when a chippy opens at lunchtime up north theres usually a fair few people stood about desperate for their butties :D

go for it lad, best of luck :thumbsup:

[blueto]

we do

not often. and only if they look like george clooney

[blueto]

2 mins and counting

[Wideboy]

right peeps i bid you fairwell i will return in 10-15mins with the results, fingers crossed :???:

[blueto]

right peeps i bid you fairwell i will return in 10-15mins with the results, fingers crossed :???:

we will be waiting!

[John 675]

Asking out strangers is the best thing ever lol, because they dont know anything and neither do you about them... chat up lines.... NEVER work on potential partners of any worth..FACT!!!

but it is so easy to do..
for Example "hey how's it going"... wait for sutible reply.. "what you up to on (insert day)"... wait for reply.. if its a green lighter such as "Nothing really" then continue with, "cool, do you fancy coming for lunch or a coffee or something?

if in the event of a red lighter such as "im working" or simply "im busy" then just tell her any way, such as "ok no worries, i was just wondering if you wanted to (etc etc)

" ***note***
by saying a coffee or lunch or something your not putting the other person in a position where they may feel threatend by Alcohol and the like, even if your intentions are pure.. Alcohol may scare off a women because it doesnt take a genius to realise what happens after a night of drinking and you dont want to give the impression thats all you want (which i hope its not) ;)

So moving on...

If you arange a date and exchange number ect, then just hold out untill the night before the specified day, and send a simple text such as "hey its (insert name) are we still on for tomorrow?"
the ideal response is obviously yes, but dont be dishartened by an excuse or a reason she has given to say no, just rearrange another day. texting back "ok no worries, im busy on (insert day) and (insert day) but what are you up to on (insert day)??

more often than not shes just saying no to see if you go funny or turn into a weirdo.. and i wouldnt ever take it personaly. by being cool your showing that your not just after one thing and that your not a freak that cant take a simple no..

so once that date has come and gone id probably move on to planning the next date, ( if all went well of course )
this one is the one you seriously find out about them.. i call it ** the late lunch ** you go out at about five for some food, do the talking thing.. eat up in good time and move on to a Magnet Bar* when your all settled you start asking questions about her.. this is the most important bit so listen You have to actually listen!!! to what she says as it will come in handy on future dates.. (but you really should anyway as you really like her!!) after this you are on your own.. to go your own way.. but trust me women can normaly spot a perv or a bloke thats after one thing a mile off, so the easiest way to counteract this is to believe it or not.. NOT BE THAT SORT OF PERSON!!.. respect and intrigue is more likely to draw her to you, rather than filth and to much flirt.. unless shes that type of gal.. (not my type i will add)

*MAGNET BAR - a magnet bar is the type of bar that is very flashy, not too expensive but more so than your local wetherspoons, cocktail bars are good as they normaly have good ambience and arnt too busy giving you both less distractions, so the cardenal rule of a late luch date.. DO IT ON A MONDAY OR A TUESDAY!!!! as even the nicest little cocktail bar turns into a pub after thursday.. as they are packed out!!!

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!

[blueto]

jesus lyle, you should have your own chat show

[Wayluya]

Arrrh the suspense!!

(I bet he printed out the thread and showed it to her :rolleyes:)

[markmoto]

Asking out strangers is the best thing ever lol, because they dont know anything and neither do you about them... chat up lines.... NEVER work on potential partners of any worth..FACT!!!

but it is so easy to do..
for Example "hey how's it going"... wait for sutible reply.. "what you up to on (insert day)"... wait for reply.. if its a green lighter such as "Nothing really" then continue with, "cool, do you fancy coming for lunch or a coffee or something?

if in the event of a red lighter such as "im working" or simply "im busy" then just tell her any way, such as "ok no worries, i was just wondering if you wanted to (etc etc)

" ***note***
by saying a coffee or lunch or something your not putting the other person in a position where they may feel threatend by Alcohol and the like, even if your intentions are pure.. Alcohol may scare off a women because it doesnt take a genius to realise what happens after a night of drinking and you dont want to give the impression thats all you want (which i hope its not) ;)

So moving on...

If you arange a date and exchange number ect, then just hold out untill the night before the specified day, and send a simple text such as "hey its (insert name) are we still on for tomorrow?"
the ideal response is obviously yes, but dont be dishartened by an excuse or a reason she has given to say no, just rearrange another day. texting back "ok no worries, im busy on (insert day) and (insert day) but what are you up to on (insert day)??

more often than not shes just saying no to see if you go funny or turn into a weirdo.. and i wouldnt ever take it personaly. by being cool your showing that your not just after one thing and that your not a freak that cant take a simple no..

so once that date has come and gone id probably move on to planning the next date, ( if all went well of course )
this one is the one you seriously find out about them.. i call it ** the late lunch ** you go out at about five for some food, do the talking thing.. eat up in good time and move on to a Magnet Bar* when your all settled you start asking questions about her.. this is the most important bit so listen You have to actually listen!!! to what she says as it will come in handy on future dates.. (but you really should anyway as you really like her!!) after this you are on your own.. to go your own way.. but trust me women can normaly spot a perv or a bloke thats after one thing a mile off, so the easiest way to counteract this is to believe it or not.. NOT BE THAT SORT OF PERSON!!.. respect and intrigue is more likely to draw her to you, rather than filth and to much flirt.. unless shes that type of gal.. (not my type i will add)

*MAGNET BAR - a magnet bar is the type of bar that is very flashy, not too expensive but more so than your local wetherspoons, cocktail bars are good as they normaly have good ambience and arnt too busy giving you both less distractions, so the cardenal rule of a late luch date.. DO IT ON A MONDAY OR A TUESDAY!!!! as even the nicest little cocktail bar turns into a pub after thursday.. as they are packed out!!!

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!

You, your good you no you are your good ;)

[markmoto]

Drummm Rollll! if hes gone a long time is that a good or bad sign? :-/

[John 675]

jesus lyle, you should have your own chat show

LOL!!! i just really like that whole getting to know you thing.. since my last ex ive had such an amazing time with a certain girl :D and not just in that respect ;) its good to be back in my own shoes lol, WOOP :makelurve:
But its always done with respect.. and i never use women, EVER its the number one rule lol,

[Wayluya]

I dunno......Bet he invites her out.......for a bag of chips :)

I wonder if we will all get invited to the Wedding?

:makelurve:

[blueto]

I dunno......Bet he invites her out.......for a bag of chips :)

I wonder if we will all get invited to the Wedding?

:makelurve:

wonder if they will have chips on the menu?

[Wideboy]

well that was a waist of time :(

[missyburd]

He'll definitely be a Widepants then! :lol:

[missyburd]

Aww no tell Aunty .org all :smt056

[John 675]

Drummm Rollll! if hes gone a long time is that a good or bad sign? :-/

could be waiting in line lol :D

i personaly would of gone about two.. its lunch time.. busy.. and shes probably hung over.. id of left it till monday or tuesday.. as chippys open about 12 ish normaly so she probably went out got a bit messy and is now working from 12 with a hang over..yes.. monday or tuesday would of been better.. less chance of busyness around 2 oclock and a better chance of no hangover! lol,

[John 675]

well that was a waist of time :(

unlucky matey.. but its not the end of the world
but
i smell a boy friend... or girlfriend at a guess, ;)

[Wideboy]

well i pulled up right outside the door, a quick scan of the shop....... S*** she's no there!!, so i hoped off the bike disappeared out of view, walked up the row of shops, looked through a shop window checked that now one had come out the shop, then went back to the bike, made it look like i just picked something up, so witheveryone working in the shop gorping at me i nodded at my mate the rode off like a bat out of hell FAST!! didn't even get chance to do up the neck strap!


they must think im a drug dealer!!, i feel the prized pr*ck :(

[dizzyblonde]

:grouphug:awww poor lad. better luck next time. there will be another try won't there? You'll never know if you don't

[missyburd]

oh lol, thought you were gonna say she's taken or gay lol! No bother, you'll just have to re-psyche yoursen up now!

[Wayluya]

Yer gotta be positive about this.

It ain't a no!

and yer now how something to talk about next time you see her (what you get up to on yer day off?)

and also a funny story to share.......much later :)

[John 675]

PFFT... is that why you thought it was a waste of time???? man just do it another day.. you sound as if you need better prep work before you go in for it any how, the moment you cak your self it all falls apart. all that prep and hard work!.. for nothing.. get on it WideBoy.. you cant stop a man with nothing to lose.

[Wayluya]

What day / time is the Next D-day? :)

(BTW I would listen to Lyle's advice on timing - and when opening she may be very busy setting up.........and then the lunch time rush).

[Wideboy]

well im going out for a bevy and some snooker in a min with my mates so we will hatch a plan! :p

give me ideas people, i don't want to go in a buy chips, because im sick of them and getting fat lol and i don't want to talk to anyone, swiftly in and out that is it, like a love ninger :p

[John 675]

A love ninja???? lol seriously dude read my big post dude, it really is that easy once you have confidance in your self

[missyburd]

borrow a dog and make it run in the shop - by throwing a treat ;) then you can run after it! she will go awww dog and everyone laffs.

Downside to plan:
1) She works in a food shop, health and safety won't be happy...
2) She might not like dogs...:confused:
3) She may think it is your dog and want to see it when she goes to your place, you would have to state it was your friend's dog, lies are no good!

Well you said ideas! :p

[Wideboy]

right lylej any chance of being on walky talky's :)

i only have one week day off and thats Friday but i will be knackerd every other day is Saturday or Sunday

how about taking a bird to a quiet out of the way pub for lunch, i know of a good one. she doesn't seem the type of girl that goes out getting sloshed all the time, genuinely has a nice personality thats what drew me towards her

[John 675]

out of the way pub is good if it works for you wideboy, you will have to choose your day wisely though.
if i could walk you through your date in real time i actualy would do it for you lol,
i could ask MTV to make a show for me lol,

its really good that she doesnt get wasted all of the time.. but i hope she isnt boring too lol,

[Wideboy]

well i've been going to this pub since i was a nipper so i know it well, so a good familiar place i think for me, it is very quite has a restaurant bit, the boosy tavern is out of the way but thats my common ground but wont be going there i promises :p

judging bye what just happened I've come to the conclusion she only works nights (yes im Mr IQ king 2008 :rolleyes:)

[John 675]

good stuff, like i said mate.. it IS easy you just have believe in your self and let your natural character out.. you cant keep a front up forever dude ;)

[Blue_SV650S]

Dude what did you talk to her about initially?

This could actually be a key factor here ...

Its gonna take some sacks to dive straight in (I am shy with women initially too), so it might be worth opening a conversation with her on a similar line to how you left it last time, then get a feel of how it is going and if you are getting a warm feeling, drop the ...

"Hey, did you know I don't really like chips" line in ... if nothing else it'll make her smile (or curious) ... hopefully she will ask "how come you keep coming here then" ... or will twig!! ;)

I think it'll go naturally after that. You haven't asked her out at that point, so not fully committed, just indicated you fancy her ... by her reaction/body language at this juncture, you will know if you should go in for the "fancy going for coffee (or whatever activity you feel she mike actually like - say a walk, bowling whatever)"

I think for your own nerves here and so you don't look a total d1ck if she has a BF, you need to stage this. What you have in your favour is that you have spoken to the girl already and she knows you ... the initial ice breaker is done and you can just roll with it now!!! 8)

To be fair I think the groundwork is already done!! ;) Starting this new convo will be easy! :)

Final question ... realistically/honestly are you 'batting' at a reasonable level?!!? ;) Its not a show stopper, but ... well ... you know!! :D

[Wideboy]

Final question ... realistically/honestly are you 'batting' at a reasonable level?!!? ;) Its not a show stopper, but ... well ... you know!! :D

to me shes a bit out of my league, but my mate say go for it......... TBH i don't really care if she is, your average girl my age round here is either a WAG or a CHAV called kareesha and i can't stand them

like i said she genuinely is a very nice person and yes is a looker :rolleyes:

[Blue_SV650S]

to me shes a bit out of my league, but my mate say go for it......... TBH i don't really care if she is, your average girl my age round here is either a WAG or a CHAV called kareesha and i can't stand them

like i said she genuinely is a very nice person and yes is a looker :rolleyes:

Cool, a 'bit' out of your league* is fine 8) Give it a go.

So do you think you will just go in and blurt it out, or try and work it on the fly as I suggested?!!?

What I will say is there is no given formula for any person!! ... but if you come across as a pest and leave her no wiggle room, she is bound to back off, so keep it/the mood light hearted!! ;)


*even if she was way out of your league, it shouldn't stop you, but well, you know where I was coming from with that surely?!! :D

[Tiger 55]

Don't worry about her being out of your league, you can meet in the cup. It's a funny old game...

[ThEGr33k]

I was going to ask if she would be working but I was a lot late... 5 hours :(.

What does your mate say about her? Also from what i know you have a LOT of fit ladies down in Southampton... You should be sorted :p I know some your age infact who i met down in Cornwall. HOT :p

we do

I been asked a couple of times but they were a little odd. Ill not go into details... lets just say they wernt for me. :(

jesus lyle, you should have your own chat show

Indeed. We should have a John's question and Answer sub forum :cool:

[sv-robo]

Tell her your looking forward to getting her fish in your mouth.:wink:

[kitkat]

if your mate works with her, can you not ask him if she has a bf/gf. only works in evening, take it she is a student and needs the money.

[kitkat]

hmmmm:rolleyes: Then maybe they need to see a suregeon.

Thought it was quality not quantity with women anyway?


:smt081:smt037:smt047 what a crock

[Wideboy]

if your mate works with her, can you not ask him if she has a bf/gf. only works in evening, take it she is a student and needs the money.

yeah but I've haven't seen him in years so not a good mate. got his number and going to call him see if he wants to go for a ride, but really its just a excuse to find out more about her :D oh and to catch up of course :smt045

[John 675]

Indeed. We should have a John's question and Answer sub forum :cool:

i might just make that for a laugh lol :takeabow: infact i think i will should be good for a 5 min giggle lol, lol,

[John 675]

http://forums.sv650.org/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=116 - done LMAO

[metalmonkey]

What do you have to loose?

If you don't ask her, you'll never know. I've been in a similar situation in the past & kicked myself for a VERY long time over it (it would of meant moving to Aus for a year minimum & working over there).

If you do ask, and she says no, well, you tried, she's not interested. Take the turn down gracefully. If she's worth it, keep trying it on, you'll get there in the end.

99.9% of relationships don't last the test of time anyhow. Life isn't for having regrets...

Ur not alone I have done the same before, I still kick myself about something that happened when I was 18, that well could have changed things.

I am almost fearless to a point, I will race bike chase bad guys with knifes ect.....but asking a girl out I'm seem to suck at it, going after the bad guys or lets say rigging a complex camera system I'm ace at, but this well....you know.

Why is it I'm good at that and not the other? Don't get me wrong I can work room and often did when I worked in film, how else do you think I manage survive?

[Gene genie]

look this is 2008, let her ask you out on a date. be her friend first, have a laugh, accidently bump into her away from the ckippy, i dont mean stalk her well maybe a little bit. be friends first and then let her ask you.
be careful though. i remember a girl i fancied, never asked her for a date and she never asked me we just sort of clicked. i am now MARRIED to that girl so you have been warned!!!!!!

[shifter]

This is like waching Hollyoaks :D

[Tiger 55]

look this is 2008, let her ask you out on a date.
:smt046

That is officially the worst advice ever on the Org!

This is not some Carrie Bradshaw-esque, hip ,New York woman, it's a wee lassie from a Southampton chip shop. She's never going to ask you out Wideboy, no matter how many times you bump into her (weirdo alert!) so stick with Plan A and just do it.

[Blue_SV650S]

be her friend first,

But watch you don't end up 'like a brother' to her or you will have years of frustration ahead!! ;)

What would you say is the 'sweet-spot' for transition from being friendly to a-bit-more Gene?