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missyburd
10-12-08, 01:49 PM
Huge rant alert.
We live in a house of 10, split into 2 5-bedroomed maisonettes.
So this fella who lives in our bit is becoming the real nightmare housemate :( He is a complete scruff who doesn't mind living in his own filth and it's really getting the rest of us down. Our kitchen is in a complete state, even if we (the rest of us) clean it from top to bottom, it is guaranteed to be back to the original cesspit state after a day.
This fella who I shall call "M" has done absolutely no washing up for 3 weeks as he is quite happy to use unclean utensils etc, it's foul. Because he uses stuff then leaves it to get into such a state none of us want to wash it, 1) why the feck should we and 2) he only leaves it to get in a state if we do! It would be fine if it was just his stuff he didn't wash up but it's everyone's combined which means we run out of stuff to use after a few days. At the moment we have to wash up just what we want to use when we want to use it which is a pain in itself. But then we don't want to cook in the kitchen anyway, can't move for pots and pans and the kitchen table is covered in potato peeling and other crap :(:(:(
I know it sounds disgusting, believe me it is and its getting very depressing. We're sick of cleaning up after him but I know I'm going to have to attack the kitchen later on today, I can;t take it any longer. A few hours of my life wasted lol.
It doesn't matter how many notes we leave or how many times we speak to him, he just DOES NOT get the fkin message. We're thinking of dumping the whole lot of dirty pans in his new inflatable double bed :twisted:. Other problems include:
playing of crappy dance music and stupid volumes at stupid hours of the morning to cover up worse noises that fortunately I don't hear...
raving parties upstairs which isn't a problem but not when the lounge is left in a worse state after with no move to clean it up.
bathroom uncleanliness
having baths and leaving the door unlocked :shock:
and more...
Anyway, the question I want to put to you .org is this:
M actually ceases to be a student after January, he is currently resitting a third year semester. This means he will have absolutely nothing to do come next semester when the rest of us are bogged down with exams and dissertation work and we will have to put up with raving parties etc. He plans to get a job but we know he blatently won't.
He doesn't plan on letting the landlady and she would want to know seeing as him not being a student affects Council Tax.
Should we let the landlady know or is it too mean?
P.S. Really sorry to have ranted I know you lot don't really need to know about the tedious goings on in my life and there are more important things going on in the world to worry about, but it's really pi$$ing us off!
EDIT: I forgot to mention that even when he does the washing up which is rare, he can't do it for toffee, so we end up doing most of it again #shakes head in despair#
plowsie
10-12-08, 01:53 PM
Tell the landlady, then send YC round there to kick the **** outta him (i know he's only a pussy cat but face to face he looks scary(love you mate xxx :D)) and tell him to tidy his carp up :D happy days :)
missyburd
10-12-08, 01:57 PM
Tell the landlady, then send YC round there to kick the **** outta him (i know he's only a pussy cat but face to face he looks scary(love you mate xxx :D)) and tell him to tidy his carp up :D happy days :)
haha YC threatens to do that every time he's down here :D
M set the fire alarm off the other week at 3 in the morning cooking fried potatoes (not naked for once, makes a change :rolleyes:) and I was ill and had only just got off to sleep, had to get up to turn it off and proceeded to rebuke him most severely in front of the others, must have looked hilarious. He's about a foot taller than me with long ginger curly hair and I was yelling at him, he was very taken aback :lol:
fizzwheel
10-12-08, 01:59 PM
Should we let the landlady know or is it too mean?
You shoudl all get together and speak to the landlady and present her with a "united" front. get her to come to the house and show her the mess and dont let him know she is coming that way she can see it for herself.
Failing that collect up all his filth, put it in a bin bag and dump it in his room......
madness
10-12-08, 02:08 PM
Threaten him, tell him that if he doesn't do his share of cleaning you'll sneak into his room in the night and cut his 'nads off.
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:08 PM
We're thinking of dumping the whole lot of dirty pans in his new inflatable double bed :twisted:.
Failing that collect up all his filth, put it in a bin bag and dump it in his room......
hehe, good plan ;-)
You shoudl all get together and speak to the landlady and present her with a "united" front. get her to come to the house and show her the mess and dont let him know she is coming that way she can see it for herself.
lol an idea but I really wouldn't want to show her it, I'd be ashamed :( The united thing is a definite though!
The chap who lives in the room next to him is going mad, he's quite clean and has had to start using our bathroom as there is vomit in theirs from M a few nights ago that's STILL there :smt013
Ask your Landlady to ask for evidence that you are all be students each symmester even if only to highlight the fact that M will no longer be a student and thus affecting the Council Tax.
In the meantime, dumping of dirty pans on inflatable bed, sound like a pretty good idea :twisted: hmmmmm ;).
TBH I would have been pi$$ed off too and have done something similar when I was in the Army. We dumped the contents of the bins in the communal living room in their bed for them to find on their return from leave. Not saying this is the best way forward or a solution but it worked for us at the time :D.
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:10 PM
Threaten him, tell him that if he doesn't do his share of cleaning you'll sneak into his room in the night and cut his 'nads off.
I was up for tying him to a chair next time he gets blathered (the lure being "its a drinking game and there's a fresher waiting in S&M gear in your room dear") then threatening him with a knife at a dangerously close region.... :twisted::twisted::twisted:
fizzwheel
10-12-08, 02:10 PM
lol an idea but I really wouldn't want to show her it, I'd be ashamed :( The united thing is a definite though!
Why should you be ashamed you didnt make the mess....
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:12 PM
TBH I would have been pi$$ed off too and have done something similar when I was in the Army. We dumped the contents of the bins in the communal living room in their bed for them to find on their return from leave. Not saying this is the best way forward or a solution but it worked for us at the time :D.
haha nice one! A friend was telling me how he kept dumping the stuff in the bin outside every week and they just kept buying new plates (some obviously get bigger loans than the rest of us LOL)...
speak to him again and inform the landlord!
from experience neither of the two will make any difference!! which leads us to the final option to invite some of us over and we can take care of the situation in more convincing manners ;)
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:12 PM
Why should you be ashamed you didnt make the mess....
no but the fact we're living like this isn't something to be proud of.
from experience neither of the two will make any difference!! which leads us to the final option to invite some of us over and we can take care of the situation in more convincing manners ;)
hehe ta for the offer :mrgreen: I think that would be most effective ;-)
fizzwheel
10-12-08, 02:14 PM
no but the fact we're living like this isn't something to be proud of.
Yes but its not out of choice, its something he's inflicting on you.
Gazza77
10-12-08, 02:15 PM
Huge rant alert.
We live in a house of 10, split into 2 5-bedroomed maisonettes.
So this fella who lives in our bit is becoming the real nightmare housemate :( He is a complete scruff who doesn't mind living in his own filth and it's really getting the rest of us down. Our kitchen is in a complete state, even if we (the rest of us) clean it from top to bottom, it is guaranteed to be back to the original cesspit state after a day.
This fella who I shall call "M" has done absolutely no washing up for 3 weeks as he is quite happy to use unclean utensils etc, it's foul. Because he uses stuff then leaves it to get into such a state none of us want to wash it, 1) why the feck should we and 2) he only leaves it to get in a state if we do! It would be fine if it was just his stuff he didn't wash up but it's everyone's combined which means we run out of stuff to use after a few days. At the moment we have to wash up just what we want to use when we want to use it which is a pain in itself. But then we don't want to cook in the kitchen anyway, can't move for pots and pans and the kitchen table is covered in potato peeling and other crap :(:(:(
I know it sounds disgusting, believe me it is and its getting very depressing. We're sick of cleaning up after him but I know I'm going to have to attack the kitchen later on today, I can;t take it any longer. A few hours of my life wasted lol.
It doesn't matter how many notes we leave or how many times we speak to him, he just DOES NOT get the fkin message. We're thinking of dumping the whole lot of dirty pans in his new inflatable double bed :twisted:. Other problems include:
playing of crappy dance music and stupid volumes at stupid hours of the morning to cover up worse noises that fortunately I don't hear...
raving parties upstairs which isn't a problem but not when the lounge is left in a worse state after with no move to clean it up.
bathroom uncleanliness
having baths and leaving the door unlocked :shock:
and more...
Anyway, the question I want to put to you .org is this:
M actually ceases to be a student after January, he is currently resitting a third year semester. This means he will have absolutely nothing to do come next semester when the rest of us are bogged down with exams and dissertation work and we will have to put up with raving parties etc. He plans to get a job but we know he blatently won't.
He doesn't plan on letting the landlady and she would want to know seeing as him not being a student affects Council Tax.
Should we let the landlady know or is it too mean?
P.S. Really sorry to have ranted I know you lot don't really need to know about the tedious goings on in my life and there are more important things going on in the world to worry about, but it's really pi$$ing us off!
Out of interest, did you know "M" before you moved into the house with him? Or have you moved into a shared house with strangers?
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:16 PM
Yes but its not out of choice, its something he's inflicting on you.
Anno :(
I shall put it forward to the others.
Thanks for the replies peeps :)
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:22 PM
Out of interest, did you know "M" before you moved into the house with him? Or have you moved into a shared house with strangers?
Yep, knew him before and I checked out what one of his previous housemates thought of him and he said that M was great to live with, might need "to be pushed to do washing up but if you tell him to he will"... hmmm :-?
It wasn't so bad at the beginning but he's just got worse. He has a mate who he seems to be joined at the hip with, which means practically every single mealtime we have an extra person using the kitchen = even more washing up. This mate doesn't contribute to any washing up either, he's just as bad and even has the cheek to tell us we live in a $hit-tip - to my face - when he's seen it clean and he makes just as much mess!
Sorry this makes me most angry, am not an angry person often, honest :(
This just goes to show that boys and girls should NEVER live in the same house. Our level of dirty is not the same as girls, and becasue of that we build up a stronger immune system....:smt083
Just tell him to do his share of the washing up or he will find a scrubbing brush so far up his a*** that no ammount of fairy liquid will help to remove it.....or just get your landlord to evict him.
missyburd
10-12-08, 02:49 PM
This just goes to show that boys and girls should NEVER live in the same house. Our level of dirty is not the same as girls, and becasue of that we build up a stronger immune system....:smt083
I'm probably not the spick and spannest of people but if I make the effort to clean a kitchen from top to bottom, I kinda expect it to stay reasonably clean but it just doesn't happen! And I'd much rather live with lads than lasses, too bitchy. I live with one girl and she's gay :D
The other two lads are actually really clean but unfortunately we have one who manages to make it hell for the rest of us.
Start off my making him clean up his sick, hand him a bucket and cleaning stuff and tell him to get on with it. Every time you see things that he has left lying around put them in his room. f you don't have access to his room, put them in a bin liner (as mentioned before) and place outside his room door. Give him one plate, bowl, kfs, mug and tell him they are the only ones he can use as the rest are for the more cleaner housemates. I do believe that this is not a normal level of dirtyness even for a guy.
Gazza77
10-12-08, 03:06 PM
Yep, knew him before and I checked out what one of his previous housemates thought of him and he said that M was great to live with, might need "to be pushed to do washing up but if you tell him to he will"... hmmm :-?
It wasn't so bad at the beginning but he's just got worse. He has a mate who he seems to be joined at the hip with, which means practically every single mealtime we have an extra person using the kitchen = even more washing up. This mate doesn't contribute to any washing up either, he's just as bad and even has the cheek to tell us we live in a $hit-tip - to my face - when he's seen it clean and he makes just as much mess!
Sorry this makes me most angry, am not an angry person often, honest :(
We had a similar problem with a housemate when I was a student many moons ago. He wasn't around in the house much, but just made a mess when he was. Eventually two of us chased him down the street when we saw him passing one day, carried him back to the house and locked him in the kitchen til it was spotless. :mrgreen:
slark01
10-12-08, 03:17 PM
You shoudl all get together and speak to the landlady and present her with a "united" front. get her to come to the house and show her the mess and dont let him know she is coming that way she can see it for herself.
Failing that collect up all his filth, put it in a bin bag and dump it in his room......
+1
It's the best way
This just goes to show that boys and girls should NEVER live in the same house. Our level of dirty is not the same as girls, and becasue of that we build up a stronger immune system....:smt083
Speak for yourself. My house is pretty much always spotless. I've just dusted, hoovered, washed up, cleaned the kitchen and floor and cleaned the bathroom from top to bottom.
I wasn't brought up in a pig-sty and I won't suffer living in one now - luckily my housemate is as tidy and clean as I am. The only time this place looks messy is after women have stayed.
My ex-wife was a lazy cow who left me to do all the housework because she knew I was better at it, she never once made an effort. She got kicked into touch after a while.
Miss YC. I'd take Foxy's advice on this. Lock your own kitchen stuff where he can't get to it so he's left with his own filth. If he leaves that lying around dump that on his bed without the plastic bags. There's such a thing as being too subtle. He'll soon learn that you won't put up with it if he's having to sleep with filthy plates pots and pans surrounding him.
As for his boyfriend, tell him to feck off and don't come round if he doesn't like the mess his mate leaves everywhere.
Agree with Foxy and Lozzo. You shouldn't have to live like that just cos he chooses to. It seems to be a bit of a double-edged sword to me, as on the one hand I'd say 'don't do the washing-up, cleaning, etc and one day he'll realise and do it himself' but on the other hand it sounds like he just won't get the message and you'll just end up living in a pig-sty all the time.
A couple of lads who I lived with in my final year at uni didn't like doing washing up but the rest of us kept ribbing them until they realised it was in their best interests. We used to cook for each other and we had a rule that whoever cooked that night did the washing up. 6 lads, 6 days a week and a take-away on the 7th night. It was a lot of work one night a week but then you had to do feck all the rest of the week which was great.
Don't let it get you down, just give him abuse about it.
i know what i would do, i would pick one set of kfs plate mug bowl etc and use it when your eating clean it ater you have finished and lock it in your room.
as then at least you have your own clean stuff.
as above anything he leave around in the house put in his room or outside the door
also can you lock the kitchen door somehow, as that would stop him using it once its been cleaned??
missyburd
10-12-08, 04:09 PM
Start off my making him clean up his sick, hand him a bucket and cleaning stuff and tell him to get on with it. Every time you see things that he has left lying around put them in his room. f you don't have access to his room, put them in a bin liner (as mentioned before) and place outside his room door. Give him one plate, bowl, kfs, mug and tell him they are the only ones he can use as the rest are for the more cleaner housemates. I do believe that this is not a normal level of dirtyness even for a guy.
yeh cheers Foxy, might try this. However I don't think it would be possible to stop him using the rest of the stuff!
yeh cheers Foxy, might try this. However I don't think it would be possible to stop him using the rest of the stuff!
If you can afford a new set of plates, have a go at him then just go into a complete brakedown mode and throw all the of the dirty plates at the wall then storm off. He might get the message then?
Make his life hell in your own way ;)
Oooo i've got plenty of ways ;)
As for men being more dirty, pah speak for yourselfs.
I don't put things away like the missy (i leave it where i wish to find it :lol: ) but I hate dust, and teh carpet being dirty etc, so our house stays clean.
missyburd
10-12-08, 04:20 PM
Miss YC. I'd take Foxy's advice on this. Lock your own kitchen stuff where he can't get to it so he's left with his own filth. If he leaves that lying around dump that on his bed without the plastic bags. There's such a thing as being too subtle. He'll soon learn that you won't put up with it if he's having to sleep with filthy plates pots and pans surrounding him.
As for his boyfriend, tell him to feck off and don't come round if he doesn't like the mess his mate leaves everywhere.
Yup liking that advice :-D
We were thinking of scraping all the crap off the plates and such, and there's a lot, and filling his inflatable bed with it then blowing it up, bit too mean though :-D
i know what i would do, i would pick one set of kfs plate mug bowl etc and use it when your eating clean it ater you have finished and lock it in your room.
as then at least you have your own clean stuff.
as above anything he leave around in the house put in his room or outside the door
also can you lock the kitchen door somehow, as that would stop him using it once its been cleaned??
lol no can't really lock it, we were thinking of locking him in and not letting him out til the kitchen was spotless :lol:
Having our own clean stuff is what we've been doing but we know it works well with the rest of us to share everything, some have better cutlery than others etc. Tis in M's best interests to cooperate obviously, he;s just a complete moron and I think revenge is looking to be the only option atm.
He has a habit of letting himself into people's rooms if he wants things too as originally we kept all our spare keys in the kitchen on a bunch so noone lost them, now I'm going to hide the bunch and only tell the others where it be.
He also went through a phase of helping himself to our food if he ran out, e.g. when he brewed beer he used up a whole bag of sugar, mostly from my other housemate and some of mine. Doesn't replace it either even though he says he will grrrr
He really is a git. He doesn't necessarily do it with malicious intent he just doesn't have any respect for people and is a lazy to$$er to go with it, not a good combination! :smt085
yorkie_chris
10-12-08, 04:23 PM
I'm known for being a bit of a scratter, but seriously this guy is a scruffy c##t. If you dumped all the filthy washing up on his bed, it would probably make the place look a f##k site better. Though whatever that fish stuff was the other week would probably look lovely on his pillow.
I dislike the whole scenario a lot, I can't just give the lad a hiding because MYC still has to live with the c##t.
Although, the landlady is a c##t as well, so I might just report her for council tax fraud or whatever... scruffy c##t gets kicked out... landlady gets a bit of a fine. I don't get locked up for losing patience... it's all good.
For the meantime. Every pot and pan that isnt personally his, put elsewhere. Every pot and pan that he leaves dirty, put on his bed. Can pick the lock into his room no problem. Just like I advised you to do with the last one, though at least that useless f##king lardarsed veggie ****** has had the decency to f##k off and take his pet whale with him.
missyburd
10-12-08, 04:27 PM
Lol I think it annoys YC a bit too :lol:
Landlady's not bad, I've warmed to her a bit since she negotiated rent instalments with me :rolleyes:
No need to pick locks, he leaves his door wide open all the time and plus we know where the spare keys are ;)
Just like I advised you to do with the last one, though at least that useless f##king lardarsed veggie ****** has had the decency to f##k off and take his pet whale with him.
He was in the same room last year too, maybe it's cursed :rolleyes:
Ceri JC
10-12-08, 04:45 PM
Between the rest of you find a replacement flatmate. Boot him out and get the replacement to move in. Get the landlord to help if he's reluctant to move out of his own accord, if you make noises that the rest of you are so p*****d off that it's either them or the 4 of you, the landlord will soon be on side. At the very least, the landlord exerting pressure on him might make M tidy up his act.
We did this in a house I lived in with a "problem" flatmate.
missyburd
10-12-08, 04:49 PM
Between the rest of you find a replacement flatmate. Boot him out and get the replacement to move in. Get the landlord to help if he's reluctant to move out of his own accord, if you make noises that the rest of you are so p*****d off that it's either them or the 4 of you, the landlord will soon be on side. At the very least, the landlord exerting pressure on him might make M tidy up his act.
We did this in a house I lived in with a "problem" flatmate.
Liking it.
I really appreciate these replies guys, some great ideas coming through :-D
Am actually managing to laugh about it a bit more now, THANKYOU! :smt008
plowsie
10-12-08, 04:52 PM
Sounds like YC loves the bloke :)
Show 'M' this thread. Maybe that'll bring home how fecked off you are.
missyburd
10-12-08, 04:59 PM
Lol no I wouldn't him knowing which site it was, then he could follow all my posts and it would be weird!
yorkie_chris
10-12-08, 05:04 PM
I don't actually mind the bloke to talk to and such, it's just him being an inconsiderate tw4t that annoys me.
missyburd
10-12-08, 05:06 PM
I don't actually mind the bloke to talk to and such, it's just him being an inconsiderate tw4t that annoys me.
I think it's mostly this term he's turned into a to$$er. He's insulted many people to their face and just gets rat@rsed all the time, he's lost any respect he had I should think, certainly from people I know anyway.
I liked him as a mate last year but living with him is an entirely different saucepan of mould....
How much longer do you have left at uni?
I've lived with someone exactly the same, - stinks, never washes/washes up, dropped out of uni, lives on the dole, doesn't pay council tax - for 3 years now. He was a mate of mate who has since graduated but left his baggage behind to live with us.
I'm in my 4th and final year now and I'm just reminding myself that it's not forever, just a few months left to go:)
Tom
missyburd
10-12-08, 06:17 PM
How much longer do you have left at uni?
Just till May now. Worst semester coming up though :(
fizzwheel
10-12-08, 06:23 PM
have any of you told him how he makes you feel ?
missyburd
10-12-08, 06:29 PM
have any of you told him how he makes you feel ?
Told him we're fed up of it aye, he's just inconsiderate and seemingly very capable of wiping anything we've said to him clean from his mind :rolleyes:
give him a chinese burn until he cleans the house up.
yorkie_chris
10-12-08, 06:45 PM
I'm not chinese, can soon take a gallon of unleaded down there though
I'm not chinese, can soon take a gallon of unleaded down there though
thatd probably make him clean the house sharpish:)
yorkie_chris
10-12-08, 06:47 PM
Him being covered in fuel would do my lungs no good at all, would really make me want to light up a ciggy.
yeah or strike some flints .
Just till May now. Worst semester coming up though :(
Worst because of work load? I find that having lots of work on is the perfect excuse to get out the house and work in the library all day.
Once you spend less time at home it all seems less important. Of course this is at the expense of seeing and living with the housemates you like.
I think knowing that it happens to many other students, and knowing you're far from the only one experiencing this helps.
Chin up, only 6 months left!
sounds as though M is depressed.... mabee all of you should have a word with him to go see a councillor at the uni....
remind him of the fact that he lives in a shared accommodation... that all of you are not there to be his mother and its about time he grew up and faced his responsibilities...
and you mentioned that he walks about the house with nothing on.. remind him of the fact this this is classed as 'flashing' and in the eyes of the law it is illegal and if he continues doing so you will have no option but to report him to the police...
also tell him that if he wants to go threw life as a dirty good for nothing pig that he looks for alternate accommodation, because one way or another he will be out of the house...
this needs you and all other house mates to rally together for it to work.
and the icing on the cake is 'antisocial behaviour'....
BanannaMan
10-12-08, 07:15 PM
Throw the dirty pots and pans and such on his bed.
Then you and the other flatmates (all of you) tell him to clean up his act or get out.
If he hasn't done so in 1 week...have the Landlady toss him out.
(if that fails call in YC)
The world is full of miserable lazy usless bas***** looking for others to drag down/ use/take advantage of/etc.
They are all usually very friendly and easy to get on with...it's part of the scam...but deep down their aim is simply to use others (you) for whatever means....money/place to live/someone to clean after them/etc.
If you let them they will make you miserable as well.
The sooner you learn how to rid your life of them the better off you'll be... both at the Uni and in the future.
Tell M, clean up or GET OUT!!!!
yorkie_chris
10-12-08, 07:32 PM
sounds as though M is depressed.... mabee all of you should have a word with him to go see a councillor at the uni....
That's real unfortunate for him, it's no excuse for the c##t to depress everyone else.
chris8886
10-12-08, 07:40 PM
I'm not chinese, can soon take a gallon of unleaded down there though
what a terrible waste of good petrol! use something else flamable that you can't use in the bike! ;)
If everyone else in the house feels as you do, then tell him what you intend to do and if he doesn't sort himself out, do it. There's no such thing as too mean etc if you've told the guy what's coming. One of my old housemates at uni used to go for a No.2, pile toilet paper on top and leave it unflushed. Every time. Disgusting creature she was.
missyburd
11-12-08, 02:02 AM
sounds as though M is depressed.... mabee all of you should have a word with him to go see a councillor at the uni....
He certainly isn't depressed judging by the numbers of freshers he brings back, or "victims" as I like to call them :rolleyes:
. One of my old housemates at uni used to go for a No.2, pile toilet paper on top and leave it unflushed. Every time. Disgusting creature she was.
She? That's just nasty.
I've given this mate of his a rollicking before for pi$$ing on the seat and not flushing the loo (both at same time) and that shut him up too. It's like they like annoying me? And as you said Bibio, I am most certainly not his mum, and I think we need to start getting nasty otherwise he's just going to think we like cleaning up after him :(
yorkie_chris
11-12-08, 03:04 AM
Meh. I'm f##ked off now, and a mate of mine is quite prepared to stab the pair of them and chuck them in the harbour. Good plan B.
cb5_keith
11-12-08, 10:39 AM
I had the same situation last year, and living with the culprits this year...pretty much had to 'train' them from scratch, like some dogs...
they are a couple, and are very dirty....used to leave washing up for weeks, use my stuff, eat my stuff etc. much like your M. As much as they are my friends, it ****ed me off so much, and i was reluctant to live with them this year....but ended up in a brand new little house together....
My plan was to talk to them first, saying its not fair on me etc. but this didnt help an awful lot.
My next plan, and quite a successful one was;
wash up RIGHT after cooking my dinner every night
Clean up around messes they make to make them so blatant they cant not notice it
More of the same really...its just like training a dog, honestly. But if i keep a standard up all the time, and try to make their mess more obvious, they will hopefully feel guilty about it. Its hard work, and sometimes i feel like leaving my washing up for a night, but if i do that, its taking a step backwards - they will see it and think, OH its ok to leave ours, for a week.
They arent very smart, far and fat from it...and she struggles to wash up with two hands...
lifes not about washing up, but when it gets you down it is :P
anyway my rant over now, but hope it helps. AND i think you should tell this landlady, kick his **** into gear!
missyburd
11-12-08, 11:00 AM
More of the same really...its just like training a dog, honestly. But if i keep a standard up all the time, and try to make their mess more obvious, they will hopefully feel guilty about it.
Well you see we do that, and the place is clean for maybe a day or two then suddenly a whole load of week old or older washing up appears from upstairs, he keeps it up there and then brings it down as if he expects us to mistake it for ours and do it for him grrrr.
We just need to get rid but unfortunately its never quite so black and white lol
Gazza77
11-12-08, 11:02 AM
Well you see we do that, and the place is clean for maybe a day or two then suddenly a whole load of week old or older washing up appears from upstairs, he keeps it up there and then brings it down as if he expects us to mistake it for ours and do it for him grrrr.
We just need to get rid but unfortunately its never quite so black and white lol
Just return it then. Or buy a dishwasher. ;)
cb5_keith
11-12-08, 11:03 AM
Well you see we do that, and the place is clean for maybe a day or two then suddenly a whole load of week old or older washing up appears from upstairs, he keeps it up there and then brings it down as if he expects us to mistake it for ours and do it for him grrrr.
We just need to get rid but unfortunately its never quite so black and white lol
sounds like he can't be trained...without a tazer or eastern torture techniques...the couple also hoard glasses/bowls/plates/cutlery upstairs...wierdos, so bloody wierd.
missyburd
11-12-08, 11:05 AM
sounds like he can't be trained...without a tazer or eastern torture techniques...the couple also hoard glasses/bowls/plates/cutlery upstairs...wierdos, so bloody wierd.
yeah it's a pain as it'll be our stuff as well so things just disappear from the kitchen and we have to search for particular items up in the $hithole he calls a bedroom/lounge....
I've never known anyone like him, just blatent disregard for other people, no consideration whatsoever! I'm always thinking about other people when I'm in the kitchen or just in general but with him it's almost like we don't exist!
cb5_keith
11-12-08, 11:09 AM
yeah it's a pain as it'll be our stuff as well so things just disappear from the kitchen and we have to search for particular items up in the $hithole he calls a bedroom/lounge....
I've never known anyone like him, just blatent disregard for other people, no consideration whatsoever! I'm always thinking about other people when I'm in the kitchen or just in general but with him it's almost like we don't exist!
Parents faults. I was asleep, it was 2 in the morning on a monday night. I live downstairs, next to the lounge...in comes MR from work, down comes MRS from upstairs, start cooking fish and chips with mock the week on the telly in the lounge!? banging pots and pans, arguing with each other, laughing at the telly. Complete disregard. I rant about them alot...
if i come in at 2 in the morning, i think "****, i best be quiet, housemates might be asleep". Roll on the day i'll have my own flat...
missyburd
11-12-08, 12:48 PM
if i come in at 2 in the morning, i think "****, i best be quiet, housemates might be asleep". Roll on the day i'll have my own flat...
Couldn't agree more!
Flamin_Squirrel
11-12-08, 01:27 PM
Buy him some paper plates/cups for xmas?
missyburd
11-12-08, 07:02 PM
Buy him some paper plates/cups for xmas?
Nice idea, maybe we should demote him to that! Think it would be quite effective!
gettin2dizzy
11-12-08, 09:58 PM
Surely you've told him 'sort yourself out, or you're out on your ****!' ??
Job done.
slark01
11-12-08, 10:01 PM
Put a couple of fish under his bed, might make him clean up.
missyburd
11-12-08, 10:28 PM
Put a couple of fish under his bed, might make him clean up.
Nah, he'd just sleep somewhere else. He's one of those that does everything to avoid having to put more effort in. Just this evening he wanted a huge dish to take some food out in, found one that has been sat at the top of the shelves for the last two years gathering dust and goes to use it! We persuaded him to wash it first, but really he is unbelievable!
Haven't you stabbed him repeatedly yet?
missyburd
11-12-08, 10:35 PM
Haven't you stabbed him repeatedly yet?
with a mouldy utensil, I like it! :lol:
BanannaMan
12-12-08, 02:02 AM
We just need to get rid but unfortunately its never quite so black and white
Actually it is.
This bloke is really not your friend.
And no matter what he says or the guilt trip he tries to lay on you....
Toss him out.
Remember you are the one with the power to rid your life of this frustration.
Waiting on him will only lead to you being used more and more.
missyburd
12-12-08, 02:05 AM
Toss him out.
I would if it was just up to me, but it's not. I live with 3 others who although they think the same, only one would actually do anything about it, they're too laid back. And its the landlady who says if he's out or not and I've a feeling she'd probably say he's alright to stay anyway as long as he's paying the rent :rolleyes:
BanannaMan
12-12-08, 02:19 AM
I would if it was just up to me, but it's not. I live with 3 others who although they think the same, only one would actually do anything about it, they're too laid back. And its the landlady who says if he's out or not and I've a feeling she'd probably say he's alright to stay anyway as long as he's paying the rent :rolleyes:
Ahh...I see.
That does change things a bit.
Well best of luck through the final semester then.
Till then I'd see what I could do to make his life as happy as he makes yours. ;)
missyburd
12-12-08, 09:17 AM
Well best of luck through the final semester then.
Till then I'd see what I could do to make his life as happy as he makes yours. ;)
Cheers :-D
I'm working on it :twisted:
Kate Moss
12-12-08, 12:35 PM
Phil can be pretty evil if you want to borrow him for the weekend!
missyburd
12-12-08, 12:37 PM
Phil can be pretty evil if you want to borrow him for the weekend!
Haha sounds like a plan, you and me can have a brew and chat while YC and Phil sort him out :-D
Kate Moss
12-12-08, 12:41 PM
ooh that could get sooo messy!!! Il bring the biccies!!!
missyburd
12-12-08, 12:45 PM
ooh that could get sooo messy!!! Il bring the biccies!!!
can't say no to that :cool: Although I do always have a nice supply in my tin....though saying that I probably wouldn't if YC is about, he soon finishes them off :rolleyes: :D
Kate Moss
12-12-08, 12:47 PM
I wouldn't mess with YC or Phil so I recon your housemate would be gone pretty quick after our visit!! then we can all go to the pub and celebrate - jobs a good'n!!!
missyburd
12-12-08, 12:49 PM
Hehehe
Gene genie
12-12-08, 09:15 PM
is 'M' fr. jack?
you need to act now to stop the rot. do all you can, and then some, to get him OUT!!!!!
whatever it takes. bone idle selfish moron. you'll be doing a service to humanity, it may just straighten this guy out, and if it puts him in a cardboard box then so be it.
richie95
12-12-08, 09:45 PM
sounds like a junkie, getting munchies at 3 am???? he aint preggas....
missyburd
13-12-08, 12:42 AM
is 'M' fr. jack?
lol no
sounds like a junkie, getting munchies at 3 am???? he aint preggas....
If it were possible he would be....:rolleyes:
Does sound like he's enjoying 'chemical enhancement' of his life though. It makes some people lazy, completely selfish and uncaring about their appearance and other people's feelings.
missyburd
13-12-08, 01:19 PM
Does sound like he's enjoying 'chemical enhancement' of his life though. It makes some people lazy, completely selfish and uncaring about their appearance and other people's feelings.
Yeah he liked a bit of that but stopped at the beginning of the semester, don't believe he's fully stopped though :rolleyes:
Good detective work there Lozzo :p
wyrdness
13-12-08, 01:28 PM
Put some of these in his bed!
http://forums.sv650.org/showthread.php?t=121465
missyburd
13-12-08, 01:35 PM
Put some of these in his bed!
http://forums.sv650.org/showthread.php?t=121465
well when I've finished with them they will probably just get thrown in the bin......GOOD PLAN! :twisted::twisted::twisted: :-D
dissuade
13-12-08, 05:33 PM
tw4t him.
tw4t him.
Good plan. I'd be tempted to clean under the rim of the loo with his toothbrush as well.
Gene genie
13-12-08, 05:39 PM
tw4t him.
thought provoking words from the orgs public relations officer.:-D:-D
northwind
13-12-08, 05:45 PM
Killing silently is a tall order, but a quick look at an anatomy chart will show that the larynx is an easy enough target—providing you can make a stealthy submerged approach, sneak up on your victim, and catch him unaware. Once that's accomplished, grasp his hair as close to the scalp as you're able to and yank his head back while using your Ka-Bar combat knife to make a lateral cut across his throat. Make sure you sever both the carotid artery and jugular vein while piercing the windpipe, and press hard; the larynx is a tough, rubbery piece of tissue.
Gene genie
13-12-08, 05:49 PM
SNEAK UP ON HIM,LOL. if its daylight there'll be no waking him, friggin zombie.
metalmonkey
13-12-08, 06:02 PM
Killing silently is a tall order, but a quick look at an anatomy chart will show that the larynx is an easy enough target—providing you can make a stealthy submerged approach, sneak up on your victim, and catch him unaware. Once that's accomplished, grasp his hair as close to the scalp as you're able to and yank his head back while using your Ka-Bar combat knife to make a lateral cut across his throat. Make sure you sever both the carotid artery and jugular vein while piercing the windpipe, and press hard; the larynx is a tough, rubbery piece of tissue.
That will make far too much mess, best to just chop across the throat which will collaspe it and led to a lack of oxygen less messy, that what I would suggest.
missyburd
13-12-08, 06:04 PM
Tis just as well M's living with me and not the .org, wouldn't like to cross you people!!! :-P
northwind
13-12-08, 06:04 PM
That will make far too much mess
I think there's a poetic justice in that, he who lives in a mess dies in a mess :mrgreen:
Gene genie
13-12-08, 06:06 PM
I think there's a poetic justice in that, he who lives in a mess dies in a mess :mrgreen:
is that why myc refers to him as mr. 'M', identity actually being mr. messy?
missyburd
13-12-08, 06:09 PM
is that why myc refers to him as mr. 'M', identity actually being mr. messy?
lmao no his name begins with M, I think his middle name must be messy though :p
Just found out today he has a really bad back, I ask him if its because his new double bed is not doing its job properly, he replies with "no its a sex injury"....****.
P.S. this is turning into a bitch thread lol, sorry!
Gene genie
13-12-08, 06:15 PM
bad back, well it aint through work is it? probably from all the twisting knives that myc has been sticking in there.
gettin2dizzy
13-12-08, 07:15 PM
MYC - have you actually done anything about this yet?
missyburd
13-12-08, 08:11 PM
MYC - have you actually done anything about this yet?
Well the day before yesterday me and a friend cleared up the majority of the kitchen (swept floor, cleaned down surfaces and grime off everything) and left him the washing up to do which he has now done :cheers: There's still a large amount upstairs in his cupboard (after having to hide it from the landlady) and I guess that will still be there to greet him next term :rolleyes: I don't live on that floor so I don't care lol.
This evening after he cooked his tea he left all his crap on the nicely cleaned kitchen table and I snapped, went upstairs and told him he had to clear it up as why should he have a nice clean table to chop stuff up on and us not when we bothered to clean it! So then he came down and not only washed the table down with a sponge (which I've NEVER seen him do before :eek:) but he also washed up a bit more. I expect we'll probably have to do most of it again tomorrow as his washing up leaves a lot to be desired but its a start.
He's going home tomorrow (thank goodness), at least a couple of days peace and quiet :rolleyes:
Gene genie
13-12-08, 08:19 PM
he left the washing up, you snapped, ww3 then broke out, he then washed up .................................................. ..................dont want to worry you but that sounds like me and her indoors.
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