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As not to derail the tattooed idiots thread anymore, it was noticed that a certain member was being flamed for having a younger girlfriend.
What's the big hoohah over it?
There's a 4 year difference between myself and my OH does that meake me a bad person?
Or because i'm 39 it's ok? Hypocritical or do people have valid reasons to give him grief over it?
Discuss!!
Dave20046
18-06-09, 10:17 AM
I disagree with it - personally the thought of going near anyone younger than 17 makes me wince. I think age differences are fine if your both adults but well dodgy otherwise.
you know what, i mentioned it on another thread in my usual tongue in cheek fashion, but i dont think it's a good idea to single anybody out and have a thread which has every chance is could be retitled TNT....
i really dont want anybody feeling ostrich sized because our views on his situation may anger/annoy/enrage....
husky03
18-06-09, 10:19 AM
he got a wee bit stick because at 14 she is still a child.
I for one have always had a thing for older chaps. It is certainly more acceptable now that i am a little older that it was when i was younger. All within the law i might add! but i can understand why it looks odd when girls are younger and the guys are older - friends and parents are protective. Makes sense
* i havent read the other thread
39 and 35 absolutely fine.
An 18 year old enjoying spending time with a 14 year old, fair enough
An 18 year old having sexual relations with a 14 year old would be pretty wrong IMO (not to mention illegal). A couple of years time when she is 16 and the guy is 20, fair enough.
This is all hypothetical and I don't know who we're talking about though :nemo:
SoulKiss
18-06-09, 10:23 AM
As not to derail the tattooed idiots thread anymore, it was noticed that a certain member was being flamed for having a younger girlfriend.
What's the big hoohah over it?
There's a 4 year difference between myself and my OH does that meake me a bad person?
Or because i'm 39 it's ok? Hypocritical or do people have valid reasons to give him grief over it?
Discuss!!
Well considering that if she sends him a "naughty picture" from her mobile tomorrow, he's bang to rights on a Child Pornography charge,
The law defines anyone under 16 as a Child (it not THAT black and white - legal responsibility differs with gender) and anyone over that age is an adult.
We are also talking about a difference that is more than 25% of HER total life-span.
Its not the actual age difference as such, its the fact that she's a child.
Now if he was 21 and she was 17 - no harm, no foul.......
Oh and yes, I know that the 16 thing IS just an arbirtary line in the sand, and that in historical times, girls of 14 got married off to much older guys, but its the world we live in today that matters.
Or maybe we are just reading too much into what it means to be someone's Girlfriend these days......
Dave20046
18-06-09, 10:23 AM
39 and 35 absolutely fine.
An 18 year old enjoying spending time with a 14 year old, fair enough
An 18 year old having sexual relations with a 14 year old would be pretty wrong IMO (not to mention illegal). A couple of years time when she is 16 and the guy is 20, fair enough.
This is all hypothetical and I don't know who we're talking about though :nemo:
How do you mean sexual relations? Do you mean just sleeping with or any activity?
16 and 20 would still be a little iffy for me to be honest. (no offence anyone)
plowsie
18-06-09, 10:23 AM
No valid reason whatsoever to give a rollocking, it's their business?
I have a missus that is 2 and a bit years younger than me, she was 15 when we first got together, I think...
* i havent read the other thread
Me also.
timwilky
18-06-09, 10:23 AM
Cannot really comment as there is only 8 months between me and the wife.
However, the lad when he was 18 told us his girlfriend was 16, we only found out she was 15, 6 months after they had been going out and she staying over etc. Boy did he get a rollocking from me, Lynne gave her one for lying to us etc.
Well considering that if she sends him a "naughty picture" from her mobile tomorrow, he's bang to rights on a Child Pornography charge,
The law defines anyone under 16 as a Child (it not THAT black and white - legal responsibility differs with gender) and anyone over that age is an adult.
We are also talking about a difference that is more than 25% of HER total life-span.
Its not the actual age difference as such, its the fact that she's a child.
Now if he was 21 and she was 17 - no harm, no foul.......
Oh and yes, I know that the 16 thing IS just an arbirtary line in the sand, and that in historical times, girls of 14 got married off to much older guys, but its the world we live in today that matters.
Or maybe we are just reading too much into what it means to be someone's Girlfriend these days......
What he said. Couldn't have put it better myself.
I for one have always had a thing for older chaps. It is certainly more acceptable now that i am a little older that it was when i was younger. All within the law i might add! but i can understand why it looks odd when girls are younger and the guys are older - friends and parents are protective. Makes sense
* i havent read the other thread
Hi, Im 49 :D and my wife is 41, actually our birthdays are exactly 6 months apart, so some of the time she,s 8 yrs younger and some of the time she,s 7 yrs younger, I was 29 when I met her incidentally ;)
Luckypants
18-06-09, 10:29 AM
I think an age difference is significant when people are young. The difference between a 20 yo and 15 yo in maturity, by and large, is very big. They have very different outlooks and aspirations. It makes for a short relationship. As folks get older, then the age difference is less of an issue.
Where one of the persons is below the age of consent, then there is the worry that sex is happening. This should not be condoned, because IMHO the younger person really does not know what they are getting into.
I think each relationship needs to be judged by those who know both parties and draw conclusions as to if it is appropriate or not. The parents of young teenagers should be the ones who decide on the appropriateness of any relationship they have and act accordingly.
Conclussion: It depends :rolleyes:
my other half is 12 years younger than me but then most of you know that already. i've nearly always had younger boyfriends whether it be 4 months - 12 years. my first husband was only older than me by 2 months.
he didn't say he was having sex with her did he just that she was his girlfriend
i also this keithd is right this thread has the potential to explode
How do you mean sexual relations? Do you mean just sleeping with or any activity?
16 and 20 would still be a little iffy for me to be honest. (no offence anyone)
Sexual to me is anything beyone kissing and cuddling.
I said 16 and 20 purely because 16 is legal and maintains the same age gap previously described.
plowsie
18-06-09, 10:32 AM
I think maturity plays a big part in young relationships...
Certainly a dodgy area - I was 16 going out with a 15 year old - does that make me a bad person?! Its a tough call but the line had to be drawn somewhere in the eyes of the law - once past 16 I think it all depends on the individuals involved though - I met my missus when she was just about to turn 19 and I was 26 - 5 years later on we are happily married and life is good :)
Amanda M
18-06-09, 10:35 AM
There are 7 years between me and my husband. I met him a month before my 18th and moved in with him not long after that :)
Can someone enlighten me as to the ages of the member and his/her gf/bf?
I am 17, and would happily have a girlfriend who is 15.
Dave20046
18-06-09, 10:37 AM
Sexual to me is anything beyone kissing and cuddling.
I said 16 and 20 purely because 16 is legal and maintains the same age gap previously described.
agree
I think maturity plays a big part in young relationships...
definitely, I think that's one of the key things. But with a bigger age gap in young people, despite how mature one might seem there's probably still a lot of growing up to be done.
I disagree with it - personally the thought of going near anyone younger than 17 makes me wince. I think age differences are fine if your both adults but well dodgy otherwise.
So people should refrain from having relationships until they're over the age of 21?
Who's to say it's a sexual relationship, only they know the in and outs of thier status (no pun intended)
If it they are having a "grown up" relationship then yes it is wrong, legally and immorally.
Meh it doesnt bother me, some instances i may think its wrong but only in certain cases, id be with some on older/younger but its not age that matters its how you click
can someone enlighten me as to the ages of the member and his/her gf/bf?
I am 17, and would happily have a girlfriend who is 15.
bf 18, gf 14.
There are 7 years between me and my husband. I met him a month before my 18th and moved in with him not long after that :)
So he was 11? :eek::scratch:
Graciepants
18-06-09, 10:40 AM
i think 18-14 is a bit dodgy, but i'd think a 16yr old with someone who was say, 35 (*for example) would be dodgy too but they'd both be legal then :S
Dave20046
18-06-09, 10:41 AM
So people should refrain from having relationships until they're over the age of 21?
Who's to say it's a sexual relationship, only they know the in and outs of thier status (no pun intended)
If it they are having a "grown up" relationship then yes it is wrong, legally and immorally.
I thought legally in the uk you're considered an adult at 18.
Depends on definitions of 'sexual relationship'.
If an 18 year old lad started sniffing round anywhere near my 14 year old daughter he'd better be able to run like the wind.
Amanda M
18-06-09, 10:46 AM
So he was 11? :eek::scratch:
yeah :rolleyes: Nah, he's 7 years older :p
I'm 22, missus is 30, been going out for around 4 years, it bugs a few people but as long as all is legal!
If an 18 year old lad started sniffing round anywhere near my 14 year old daughter he'd better be able to run like the wind.
+1
Dave20046
18-06-09, 10:50 AM
I'm 22, missus is 30, been going out for around 4 years, it bugs a few people but as long as all is legal!
I'd say yours and amanda's situations are a complete different kettle of. Think it's only really anyone elses business when one persons wellfare might be at risk and/or the law is being broken. It's a hard subject though.
tigersaw
18-06-09, 10:50 AM
I'm 16 years older than Towergirl.
bf 18, gf 14.
Deary me thats an age gap! erm... it depends what she is like personally. Theres some 16 year old who act like children, but some younger ones that act a lot older, and look older. You have to judge each case on its own.
If i met a girl i liked, didnt know her age, then found out she was 14... i wouldnt get rid of her down to age.
plowsie
18-06-09, 11:01 AM
Deary me thats an age gap!
But its not :-? As shown by others. Its not the age gap that is the problem. Its the age of the younger party.
SoulKiss
18-06-09, 11:03 AM
Deary me thats an age gap! erm... it depends what she is like personally. Theres some 16 year old who act like children, but some younger ones that act a lot older, and look older. You have to judge each case on its own.
If i met a girl i liked, didnt know her age, then found out she was 14... i wouldnt get rid of her down to age.
No offence Maggers, but you're not in the best place to comment, you'll realise this when you grow up - hehe (I remember you getting worried about fancying a girl all of a year older than you just a few weeks ago).
To me, in the 18/14 case :smt008is just about ok, but :makelurve: is no-go.
Bluewolf
18-06-09, 11:05 AM
Agreed. I was a completely different person at 18 than I was aged 14, you do a helluva lot of growing up in those four years.
What would everyone think if we knocked a couple more years off - she's 12 and he's 16..?
Sorry, well creepy... but that's just my opinion... ;)
Spiderman
18-06-09, 11:05 AM
I'm suprised no one has mentioned the old chestnut... girls mature quicker than boys.
Perhaps she is very grown up for 14 and they get on like a house on fire. Maybe like others in this thread she has a thing for an older boy cos it makes her feel more grown up.
I'm not one to judge and i'm sure if the girls family felt the boy was only interested in her for one thing they'd be keeping a very close eye on things.
Who knows, they may have been friends at school for a few years and are only now bf/gf.
He could however have picked her up in a club cos she looks so much older and only found out about it later. Scenee from Trainspotting anyone?
Dave20046
18-06-09, 11:06 AM
But its not :-? As shown by others. Its not the age gap that is the problem. Its the age of the younger party.
With a young teen though , as said by SK 4 years is almost 25% of the years they've lived which is a lot of maturing time - all that stuff depends on the individuals though,as you say; it is mainly the age of the younger party that causes an issue.
No offence Maggers, but you're not in the best place to comment, you'll realise this when you grow up - hehe (I remember you getting worried about fancying a girl all of a year older than you just a few weeks ago).
To me, in the 18/14 case :smt008is just about ok, but :makelurve: is no-go.
+1, but even kissing and caring for is linked to a sexual relationship IMO which would also feel weird.
He could however have picked her up in a club cos she looks so much older and only found out about it later. Scenee from Trainspotting anyone?
been there my webbed friend. think i was 18/19, club, got her number, picked her up next day, bought a drink, sat down and it was this point where she told me she was 15. thankfully i wasnt as bad as Renton from Trainspotting and hadn't done owt, and despite there only being 4 year difference she was swiftly despatched back home to finish her homework....
metalangel
18-06-09, 11:11 AM
I'm 29, missus is 11 months younger. Best gap I managed was when I was 21, girl was 29.
Example I mentioned of myself 17 and girl 13 was made dodgy from the fact that I was 6'2" while she was a very very young looking 13, very petite and very little... shall I say... development? It wasn't that I didn't want a girlfriend, more that I was afraid for the grief we'd both get over what might have looked decidedly pee-doo-feel-ia.
Saying that, I had a friend who, when she was 12, was in a full on sex relationship with a guy aged 20. And she wasn't a particularly tall or developed girl at 14 when I knew her, which made us all cringe a bit thinking about it.
timwilky
18-06-09, 11:12 AM
My dad was 35 when he started knocking off my baby sitter, she being 17.
They married 15 years later, he died age 70 leaving a 52 year old widow.
Age don't matter when you love each other. but at the beginning and end it can have a serious effect.
One new neighbour when I lived with them thought it was nice that my wife and I let my dad stay with us. No she is my step mum not wife.
Or my lads father in law who after a bit of a play away found himself age 60 with an 18 year old girl friend with a growing lump
plowsie
18-06-09, 11:14 AM
I had a fling with a 35 year old woman once when I was 17, does that make her wrong?
Spiderman
18-06-09, 11:15 AM
been there my webbed friend.
Glad someone got the reference, thought it may have been too obscure but i forgot of the great KeithD intellect.
I did a similar thing. Met a girl on holiday, thought she was older than me so i lied about being 18. I was 16 at the time. She then tells me she's 15 and me at 18 is too old for her to go for a drink alone with. I had to go back to hotel to get my passport to prove i was actually 16 and lied. Great way to start a night out eh?
D'oh!
madness
18-06-09, 11:17 AM
I'm 43 and Ibby is 5 1/2 years younger than me.
I personally wouldn't have any issues in having a 16 year old girlfriend, for a short while at least. Their lack of maturity would do my head in, but to be honest I would probably only do it for the energetic s*x!
Dave20046
18-06-09, 11:20 AM
I'm 43 and Ibby is 5 1/2 years younger than me.
I personally wouldn't have any issues in having a 16 year old girlfriend, for a short while at least. Their lack of maturity would do my head in, but to be honest I would probably only do it for the energetic s*x!
Atleast you honest! :lol: Problem is (if you were serious which you probably aren't) you'd be taking advantage of her immaturity. I'd understand her family/friends getting a bit touchy about it.
There's a easy formula for dating someone younger.
Halve your age then add 7 years.
so for a 18yr old that's 16 minimum...
HTH :)
Dave20046
18-06-09, 11:23 AM
There's a easy formula for dating someone younger.
Halve your age then add 7 years.
so for a 18yr old that's 16...
HTH :)
:-kIt actually comes out with pretty reasonable answers but unfortunately doesn;t take into account variables like maturity etc. :p
I think your main problem is that its against the law to have any form of sexual relations with a minor, and no amount of reasoned debate would stop me from battering anyone who touched my daughters
tigersaw
18-06-09, 11:26 AM
There's a easy formula for dating someone younger.
Halve your age then add 7 years.
so for a 18yr old that's 16 minimum...
HTH :)
hmm so for me being 47 and towergirl being 31, thats just right
metalangel
18-06-09, 11:27 AM
My dad was 35 when he started knocking off my baby sitter, she being 17.
I think I saw that movie, Exploited Babysitters 7? ;)
I think your main problem is that its against the law to have any form of sexual relations with a minor, and no amount of reasoned debate would stop me from battering anyone who touched my daughters
But this doesn't magically stop when they turn 16.
madness
18-06-09, 11:31 AM
When I had a spell of internet dating when I was 41, I always searched for women between 30 and 45. I wouldn't start a relationship with anyone who wasn't mature enough, but casual s*x is different.
:-kIt actually comes out with pretty reasonable answers but unfortunately doesn;t take into account variables like maturity etc. :p
It doesn't take variables, but it does pretty much give rough ages of what's deemed acceptable by society.
But this doesn't magically stop when they turn 16.
Yeah I know, but where do we draw the line though ?
GeneticBubble
18-06-09, 11:36 AM
39 and 35 absolutely fine.
An 18 year old enjoying spending time with a 14 year old, fair enough
An 18 year old having sexual relations with a 14 year old would be pretty wrong IMO (not to mention illegal). A couple of years time when she is 16 and the guy is 20, fair enough.
This is all hypothetical and I don't know who we're talking about though :nemo:
my views are the exact same,
but at the end of the day each person lives there own lives who are we to judge. so aslong as everyones happy let them get on with it.
All depends on maturity. I didn't really have girlfriends through school, all the people my age and older I considered immature idiots. Then I met Izi, she's a year younger than me, but not immature and stupid like most of the other 17 year olds I knew of.
My sister on the other hand is 17 (i think) and has a girlfriend who is 21. Doesn't bother me, makes me chuckle, the only thing I have in common with her, apart from parents, is the fact that we both have girlfriends :p
I think your main problem is that its against the law to have any form of sexual relations with a minor, and no amount of reasoned debate would stop me from battering anyone who touched my daughters
What constitutes as sexual relations?
Kissing? Or more?
Tbh, legally,they should be allowed to hug and hold hands. If a 45y/o could go to prison for kissing a 14y/o than what makes the difference between an 18y/o doing the same? I am talking legally of course.
My mrs's Dad wasn't too happy about me being with his daughter (especially because I ride a motorbike, and they're the root of all evil). Because of the distance between us, we stayed over right from the beginning. I had to have a word with him in the end, because he was making her feel bad and ****ing me off. Her mum on the other hand was fine about us, she could see we're both mature, and she's like a mother to me now too.
So I guess it depends on the maturity of the two people involved, and the ability of their parents to notice it, or notice the lack of it, and not act out of hand.
I dated Claire for 5 years. At the start i was 26, she was 17. She was mature 17 year old. at the time it was fine.
There is 5 years between Verna and me i dont even think about it. Its like all things, it depends on the person/people and when you date. A 24 year old going out with a 14 year old is abviously a no no, but 18 and a 28 year old is fine.
GeneticBubble
18-06-09, 11:51 AM
My mrs's Dad wasn't too happy about me being with his daughter
Are dads ever happy when there daughters bring home guys? i think its a defensive dad thing...
this topic is providing a good read though :thumright:
timwilky
18-06-09, 11:53 AM
Are dads ever happy when there daughters bring home guys? i think its a defensive dad thing...
Well I actually got to thump one idiot my younger daughter brought home. Pity I am a fat old man and he a too quick on his feet skinny runt or I would have battered him instead
Are dads ever happy when there daughters bring home guys? i think its a defensive dad thing...
this topic is providing a good read though :thumright:
Nope I wouldn't think so. He didn't give me a chance though :p
Chap at work said that his sons had girls over when they were 16+, he didn't have a problem with that. But if he had a 16 year old daughter he wouldn't have some lad in there giving her one. :rolleyes:
this topic is providing a good read though :thumright:
it is indeed. i was bit concerned to start it may turn into a verbal bashing, but been good so far.....
GeneticBubble
18-06-09, 12:03 PM
it is indeed. i was bit concerned to start it may turn into a verbal bashing, but been good so far.....
you've jinxed it now! cue verbal bashings :smt013:hackedoff:
Let them get on with it. no one has the right to judge and at a 4 year age gap its not a major. Yes i can see that 14 is young. Personally i wouldn't do that. But as other have said if its just gf bf and nothing past the usual kissing its not a big deal.
When your adults i dont think its matters as you are both mature enough to deal with the feelings/emotions etc- theres 8 years between me and treacle
As for the 14- 18 yr old thing See i can speak from "experience" here (for want of a better word)
See i can speak from "experience" here (for want of a better word)
My cousin was 13- "Bf" was 18/19...
Shes now 15 and has a son thats soon to be a year old in August. (13 when come out she pregnant, 14 when she had him)
Id happily batter him if i saw him now (and no hes not on the scene anymore-no suprises), he knew how old she was etc, i think its wrong tbh that older guys of that age are "seeing" girls that young-they are still children-whats wrong with getting with a lass nearer their age range?
Like i said i don't think they should be getting up to anything that could lead to babies. But you can't judge another persons relationship because of the way other peoples have turned out. I've seen the same thing happen that you have Paws and it's sh!t. But we cant say the same thing is happening in this case or that the gf is being prayed on.
...prayed on.
Religious nutters are the worst kind :p
Like i said i don't think they should be getting up to anything that could lead to babies. But you can't judge another persons relationship because of the way other peoples have turned out. I've seen the same thing happen that you have Paws and it's sh!t. But we cant say the same thing is happening in this case or that the gf is being prayed on.
i dont think anyone has said that to be fair hun, but it makes for a good open discussion and doesnt turn into a slanging match/ witch hunt & as long as its not aimed at anyone in particular.
no wasnt meant to be - soz if it came across like that - thats the only prob with forums, sometimes things come across like your having a go when your not :-)
Let them get on with it. no one has the right to judge and at a 4 year age gap its not a major. Yes i can see that 14 is young. Personally i wouldn't do that. But as other have said if its just gf bf and nothing past the usual kissing its not a big deal.
yeah but doesnt the girlfriend boyfriend thing imply a certain commitment to one another ? otherwise you,re just mates arent you ?
plowsie
18-06-09, 12:36 PM
whats wrong with getting with a lass nearer their age range?
Younger girls are easier to get what you want as an older bloke maybe. Or maybe the younger girl wants an older lad heaven forbid...
SoulKiss
18-06-09, 12:38 PM
See i can speak from "experience" here (for want of a better word)
My cousin was 13- "Bf" was 18/19...
Shes now 15 and has a son thats soon to be a year old in August. (13 when come out she pregnant, 14 when she had him)
Id happily batter him if i saw him now (and no hes not on the scene anymore-no suprises), he knew how old she was etc, i think its wrong tbh that older guys of that age are "seeing" girls that young-they are still children-whats wrong with getting with a lass nearer their age range?
Think back Paws - when you were 18 what were the 18 yo blokes like..........
Yes there is a general difference in maturity levels between boys and girls, and yes girls do seem more mature for their age, they also are usually a lot more easily manipulated.
Unfortunately to all of those posting who are under 21, they wont see this - the wonderful thing about being 35 is you have all this great hindsight. The other is that you could go out with girls half your age and not get arrested.
Or maybe the younger girl wants an older lad heaven forbid...
heaven forbid indeed :-)
talking about age differences i was 17 and was with a an older woman of 33 (some while ago i might add). Loved every minute of it lol
i have no problem with any age gap,
I'm 18, she's 14? Is that so bad?
but as the girl is only 14, is that not classed as illigal?
plowsie
18-06-09, 12:41 PM
talking about age differences i was 17 and was with a an older woman of 33 (some while ago i might add). Loved every minute of it lol
Like I said with me, it was an experience.
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"but as the girl is only 14, is that not classed as a Pedophile?"
no idea. but if it is classed as that, but they are both happy and not even doing anything sexual then how is that fair?
<snip>
Unfortunately to all of those posting who are under 21, they wont see this - the wonderful thing about being 35 is you have all this great hindsight. The other is that you could go out with girls half your age and not get arrested.
Don't bet on it, age doesn't prohibit us from wisdom etc ;)
As a 19 year old, 95% of the guys I've known of through my teenage years I wouldn't want near any daughter of mine. If they aren't immature, they're interested in only one thing.. Girls are no better imho.
plowsie
18-06-09, 12:42 PM
but as the girl is only 14, is that not classed as a Pedophile?
Good question, however, I hate how easily that term is used these days.
If the fella has the maturity of a 16 year old, and so does she, is it right then?
Physical age doesn't tell you much about people, mental age says a lot more. But I don't suppose you can base laws that way, so any law regarding this will just be a line in the sand.
plowsie
18-06-09, 12:45 PM
If the fella has the maturity of a 16 year old, and so does she, is it right then?
Physical age doesn't tell you much about people, mental age says a lot more. But I don't suppose you can base laws that way, so any law regarding this will just be a line in the sand.
But then, it raises the question..."how do you define a mental age"
Good question, however, I hate how easily that term is used these days.
100% agree
but its the law
"how do you define a mental age"
No idea. There is no black and white (same as with speeding and accidents - soz had to put that in) which is why you have to look at it all individually i guess.
redbouy
18-06-09, 12:48 PM
what about when the tables are turned, and its a young guy and older girl ? I might have started a bit early at 13. I think she was 16 ? I now know it was wrong, but then I didnt know any better.
SoulKiss
18-06-09, 12:56 PM
Good question, however, I hate how easily that term is used these days.
While I dont think that without knowing all the circumstances we should go throwing that name around.
Other thing to consider is that the circumstances are that if they did do anything before she is 16 but they have been going out for a substantial period of time (maybe even not that if they are using the term boyfriend and girlfriend) that "Grooming" charges could also be levelled.
While I dont think that without knowing all the circumstances we should go throwing that name around.
.
18 year old man going out with a 14 year old school girl.
what other circumstances do you wish to concider?
Think back Paws - when you were 18 what were the 18 yo blokes like..........
.
Only after one thing
SoulKiss
18-06-09, 01:04 PM
18 year old man going out with a 14 year old school girl.
what other circumstances do you wish to concider?
is that Turbo ConCider?
Well the fact that there may not have been any activities that would class them as such ?
Its not THAT long ago since it was considered the done thing to wait until you were married before the relationship got physical.....
As I said, no need for that name to be bandied about so freely, its a pretty serious allegation, that could lead to serious repercussions (on the person using it as well as the person labelled).
Also it adds a level of potential conflict we have manage to avoid so far.
Younger girls are easier to get what you want as an older bloke maybe. Or maybe the younger girl wants an older lad heaven forbid...
Them imo its down to the guy to be a man and walk away saying thanks but no thanks, i'll wait until your more mature and older, just to make this clear IM NOT aiming this at the forum member who kinda got this convo going as we dont know their situ, im talking anbout it from the experience me and my family have/are going through.
Would it be such an issue if the guy was 14 and the girl was 18?
Bluewolf
18-06-09, 01:09 PM
Yep
Yep
You'll need to explain why.
Equality of the sexes n'all that
plowsie
18-06-09, 01:27 PM
Them imo its down to the guy to be a man and walk away saying thanks but no thanks, i'll wait until your more mature and older, just to make this clear IM NOT aiming this at the forum member who kinda got this convo going as we dont know their situ, im talking anbout it from the experience me and my family have/are going through.
Yes, that also needs to be made clear.
i have no problem with any age gap,
but as the girl is only 14, is that not classed as illigal?
Only if they're having a sexual relationship or as SK earlier stated sharing images via phone...i digress.
In the earlier thread that i mentioned, people were mounting their moral high horse and giving him a public flaming for something they know bugger all about, his/her relationship status.
It's not meant to be turned into a witch hunt/slagging off members thread, but a general discussion into peoples thoughts on age gaps within relationships.
There does seem to be a trend emerging of people who have daughters having a slight "draconian" outlook on their own parental views to their sibling entering into a relationship.
I'm fortunate/unfortunate enough to have 2 boys, who as and when they start to get into the realms of g/f territory i'll give them the usual advice that any father would.
Would i be a possesive father if i'd had a daughter, damn right i would be, nobody would ever be good enough.
Quite a diverse response from people on here which does make for some interesting reading.
Yes, that also needs to be made clear.
what does?
plowsie
18-06-09, 01:39 PM
what does?
That this thread is not aimed at whoever got the flaming that i still dont know who it was...Nor for the fact that it does not affect my view in the slightest.
That this thread is not aimed at whoever got the flaming that i still dont know who it was...+1
Plowsie & hovis, i cant see anywhere that the forum member has been named in this thread? and ive made it v clear in not only my posts but also a pm to the forum member that my comments etc are not aimed at him.
plowsie
18-06-09, 01:48 PM
Plowsie & hovis, i cant see anywhere that the forum member has been named in this thread? and ive made it v clear in not only my posts but also a pm to the forum member that my comments etc are not aimed at him.
Do you require a medal? ;)
All I said was that it should be made clear that posts shouldn't be based on this persons specific situation, I never accused anyone :???:
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