Blast from the past

She obviously feels some sort of guilt to contact you. Your response was spot on!! IMHO.

Now block her on Facebook and forget about her, as you say the 'weight has been lifted'

Originally Posted by gettin2dizzy

You've just opened the door to tons of abuse now. Personally, I'd have just left it.

Then again, I didn't have to go through what you did.

Nope you didnt which is probably why you dont understand why I had to reply.

Anyhoo, I havent opened the door to more abuse. Why should I sit here and let her feel that she has the right to apologise after so many years in order to make herself feel better? Call me bitter but blimey, ive had enough of sitting in silence..

Originally Posted by Stu

No I don't think so - at least you would know that the original apology was not genuine.
Anyway, can't you block on facebook?

Yup shes blocked. But she managed to squeeze in a reply before i did it. apparently she doesnt remember anything and wont contact me again. Yippee to me

Nice one Maria, an excellent reply, you showed her that your not weak and won't take any crap. As Messie says you go girl! I totally understand why you had to do it.

At the end of the day you have an entire forum to support you and many friends while this person has probably pushed a lot of their friends away and if not your the bigger person any way so sit back and feel smug

Originally Posted by foxyinleather

Now block her on Facebook and forget about her

Forget about who now?

Originally Posted by Dave20046

If she does send any abuse you could give us her name and we could all send her abuse. That'd be unpleasant, getting abuse from hundreds of strangers up and down the country.

Is this a new service the org is going to offer? cause if it is i'm in

personally, having similar experiances of primary school, i would be inclinded to acept the apology. people make mistakes, the entire criminal rehabilitation system is based on this as is the belief that people can change.

while this might not make you feel better, i think acepting the apology is the right thing to do. but u dont have to kiss her ass about it.

anyway, just my 2cents

I think you did exactly the right thing. She was looking for you to make her feel better about it, and you wouldn't let her, so good.

[Stu]

Originally Posted by Miss Alpinestarhero

she managed to squeeze in a reply

Originally Posted by pencil shavings

personally, having similar experiances of primary school, i would be inclinded to acept the apology. people make mistakes, the entire criminal rehabilitation system is based on this as is the belief that people can change.

while this might not make you feel better, i think acepting the apology is the right thing to do. but u dont have to kiss her ass about it.

anyway, just my 2cents

Sounds like her first apology wasn't that sincere if she can't even respect your request not to contact you again.


Well done

You handled that very well Her contacting you in the first place has only brought up painful memories for you and she had no right to do that. Why did she say sorry for the "bad time you had in school" and then in the next message say "she can't remember anything"? Clearly she remembers enough to know you weren't a happy bunny as a schoolkid

Fair enough she may have wanted to apologise, but to be bluntly honest she probably just wanted to snoop about your facebook and see what you're up to. Sounds harsh but it is for that reason that I deliberately don't accept friend requests from certain people in school. I was bullied at 2 out of 3 primary schools I went to, and for a large part of secondary too, it wasn't until I hit sixth form that people started to grow up a bit

It greatly depends on your personality too, if you were willing to stand down and let her feel better about the way she acted then that's fair enough too, some people can forgive and forget certain issues easily enough. I, and by the sounds of it you too, can't do that and IMO rightly so. I personally just don't see why I should, it's not like we would suddenly become "bestest bestest buddies", we're all grown-ups now and need to understand the responsibilities we had then as kids and now as adults. Kids at school are by no means stupid, you can't fob these things off as "being young and foolish", some children can be disgustingly vindictive and can make you feel so horrible your life becomes a complete misery which is no way to spend a childhood

Really glad for you hun, she needed putting in her place. Sorry about the epic post

100% behind you on this one chick!

Hopefully this has made you feel empowered and has given you a bit of a boost and reitterated the fact that you have grown into someone she could only ever wish to be.

Bullying destroys lives, you have been strong enough to come out the other side and stick two fingers up to those who made your life hell. Some people don't get the chance.

The fact that she contacted you and apologised showes she does remember something and knows that it was wrong.

Very proud of you. It takes a lot to rise above bullies. xxxxxx