Disappointed in a friend

First off before you go cutting off friendships it's surely worth double checking we haven't just got wires crossed here. Sounds like you're going on third hand information here and perhaps it's worth giving your friend the benefit of the doubt first? I agree that true friends wouldn't do that to you, but I also know that true friends balls things up from time to time.

As a potential scenario, is it possible that third party said something like "Shell went off on one over something completely innocuous I said", and your friend said "Go easy on her, she had a rough childhood that involved nasty scenario X/Y/Z", chinese whispers develop and somehow the impression gathered is that your friend has been telling stories and spilling personal sensitive confidences.

[Shellywoozle]

Originally Posted by MiniMatt

First off before you go cutting off friendships it's surely worth double checking we haven't just got wires crossed here. Sounds like you're going on third hand information here and perhaps it's worth giving your friend the benefit of the doubt first? I agree that true friends wouldn't do that to you, but I also know that true friends balls things up from time to time.

As a potential scenario, is it possible that third party said something like "Shell went off on one over something completely innocuous I said", and your friend said "Go easy on her, she had a rough childhood that involved nasty scenario X/Y/Z", chinese whispers develop and somehow the impression gathered is that your friend has been telling stories and spilling personal sensitive confidences.

I will give the friend a chance to explain but I am going to hide some info I know for defo and see how they play it. Like keeping crucial evidence from a defense solicitor in interview and watching their client crumble in front of them ha ha ha I feel cruel as I am hurting, is that bad LOL

Shelly - if you know 100% what's been said and you didn't like it, I'd assess whether it's worth spending time trying to talk to him/her. Is what's been said something which can be brushed under the carpet and forgotten about? If it isn't then it's going to be hard to continue the relationship anyways, so might be best to call it quits.

[Shellywoozle]

Originally Posted by TazDaz

Shelly - if you know 100% what's been said and you didn't like it, I'd assess whether it's worth spending time trying to talk to him/her. Is what's been said something which can be brushed under the carpet and forgotten about? If it isn't then it's going to be hard to continue the relationship anyways, so might be best to call it quits.

No it can't be brushed under the carpet, I suppose all I want is to know why they did it. But I think you are right, calling it quits is the best.

Gutted but I have plenty of mates who I know are true.

Originally Posted by Blue_SV650S

I think your nutter-ness actually all stems back to that time I took you roughly from behind ... (by surprise)

You too huh?

Blimey, she must have it bad then.

Originally Posted by xXBADGERXx

A shovel , a Dark night , and 10 acres of land .

And two sacks of lime powder

Confront your friend....

Originally Posted by Dangerous Dave

Confront your friend....

+1 with that listen to what they say first

I'd be mad, but prob feel sad for said friend and cut them out (at least for a while).

If the most important thing in his/her life is to gossip about your personal matters, those that were intrusted to them, then they're either sad, lacking in sensitivity/compassion or simply thoughtless.

Next time you see him/her. Tell them you're really disappointed in them and leave it at that. Cut them out for a while, until they have properly appologised. If not, it's their loss.

Nah...it wouldn't bother me too much, it's not worth wasting time thinking about. Although if it is worrying you, perhaps you should either a) ask the offending friend about it outright, or b) don't tell them anything else about you from now onwards, c) invent something really juicy and tell them and see how long it takes to get back to you...thus making it really funny!