How to deal with so called 'friends'

Start using excuses back and when she gets annoyed just say, yeah annoying isn't it. Remind you of anyone?

If your parents are an issue then you don't need to fall out with her, you just need to "engineer" a drifting apart. Which can be achieved by ignoring messages and calls, and making an excuse as to why you can't meet up, and when an arrangement falls through, don't entertain any arranging of alternative dates, just leave it as an open ended "some other time maybe". She'll soon get the message and find a new best friend.

Then when your parents ask, you say "No, we haven't fallen out at all, just not got so much in common as we used to, I suppose we have just drifted apart".

As said you can choose your friends, but not your family. In my experience families are enough hassle, without having problem friends as well.

EDIT: That said I have friends that I wouldn't allow us to fall out easily and it would upset me if we ever did, but those are good friends, who have been friends for a long time through thick and thin, and loosing them would be like loosing a family member or someone important to you. It would probably take a few years of such problems continuing with nothing to explain that behaviour, before I would ditch them. She doesn't sound from your OP like she is that kind of friend, as it doesn't sound like she has a lot of time and respect for you. If she isn't that close or important to you, get rid.

Originally Posted by Miss Alpinestarhero

What’s been the stupid excuse someone has given you?

"I didn't realise it was a firm arrangement."

Didn't matter anyway, shortly afterwards that mate met a girl and vanished off the face of the earth.

One thing though, were you ever really friends or just pals/mates/buddies? True friendship is a rare thing, not to be given up lightly. Otherwise just give her a damn good ignoring.

[johnnyrod]

Originally Posted by Lozzo

In that case text her to come over, then when she walks through the door smash her face in with a frying pan. When she's laying bleeding and battered on the floor tell her she's a crap friend. She'll maybe get the message then

The good old Reeves and Mortimer approach. Lozzo can always be relied upon for direct action.

Given the thing with your parents, I'd say the best advice is to ignore her completely until she either gives up or gets her **** together. Either way you get the right result. She's some sort of sociopath/egomaniac, anda s much as you'd like to sit her down and tell her she's a useless cow and this is why, after a quick trip round the goldfish bowl, all she'll remember is that she's annoyed with you for something. Even if you writ her a letetr so she can re-read it, she'll just end up justifying herself somehow. So, the passive response is the one. If her'your parents ask then tell them she just does your head in and leave it at that, at least they're more likely to be sensible enough to get it.

For the record, this isn't my mother you're friends with is it? Cos it could be!

Originally Posted by plowsie

Sorry mate, I did call you back in the end lol. Don't delete me out of your life as a friend please!

Not you mate, love you long time!

*Even if your rubbish at answering your phone, text and ringing back when you can be bothered.

[fizzwheel]

Originally Posted by Miss Alpinestarhero

I am now at a point where she has annoyed me beyond recognition but I’m unable to get rid of her because my parents and her parents are very good friends. Sods law! Some of you might be thinking that she obviously doesn’t like me and that I should ignore her, but she still leaves messages on my facebook or texts asking to meet up

So talk to your parents about your friends behaviour, put them in the picture, talk it through with them. If you decide to bin her off, ( personally I would ) then your parents will know what is going on so if her parents moan at them about it, then you can put your side of the story across...

Originally Posted by speedplay

Even if your rubbish at answering your phone, text and ringing back when you can be bothered.

Never understood this needy thing some folk have and want to get a response to every text and message within 24 hours, and think your ****ed off with them if you don't

Phone rings
"Is everything OK?"
"Yes, why?"
"Are you not talking to me?"
"Of course I am why?"
"Because you didn't answer my text"
"Did you ask a question in your text?"
"No, but I thought you'd reply and when you didn't I thought you weren't talking to me"
"The last time I spoke to you I was talking to you, and we haven't spoken since, so what could we possibility have fallen out about?"
"OK, it's me being silly, forget it"

Yes that conversation was with a female friend before anyone asks

Write the word "BOLLOX" on your hand in reverse , then when you see her , apply it to her forehead at high speed and then flip her off and walk away .

[Jayneflakes]

Send her a parcel of a Lunch Box full of Turds. That always gets the message across.


I had a friend I shared a house with and he threw me out when he found out I was an "alternative" sexuality. He phoned me up in tears a few days later because his girlfriend dumped him. I struggled to offer sympathy.

[Stu]

Originally Posted by Jayneflakes

He phoned me up in tears a few days later because his girlfriend dumped him. I struggled to offer sympathy.

Did you get her number?