Disappointed in a friend

Thats the trouble with friends, it hurts more when one lets you down like this, Id confront them and get the truth out of em and take it from there, good luck with it

I agree with what many have already said, confront your "friend" and give them the opportunity to give their side of the story - is it possible that the 3rd party is the one doing the stirring??

Try and be calm and see what they have to say, if you don't like it or don't believe them, that's when you make the decision whether to cut them out. Betrayal is such a horrible thing to experience and I can only say from my own personal experience that if you feel yourself missing them, just remember what they've done, it gets easier. (Being a Scorpio helps as I can hold a grudge for yeeeeeears haha)

Can't make any comments on your nuttiness as I don't know you but you're not alone lol Hugs x

Originally Posted by Dangerous Dave

Confront your friend....

+ 1, if they do not understand you are not pleased with them they may think it is ok to do it again.

[Shellywoozle]

Just read all your replies thank you for your advice. I didnt sleep much last night and I am finding it hard to work out fact from fiction in all this.

I tried to call my friend this morning and the phone was off, which made me fear something bad may have happened and that started me thinking into how much they mean to me and how I would miss them. I am a big softy and don't hold grudges and I figured life is too short. Maybe I have just calmed down, but I finally made contact and are going to meet up.

I have no intentions of arguing, I just want to hear the truth even if it is bad and I won't like it. Suppose I should forgive and be the better person.

I know my friend is hurting by what they have done and they have said sorry.

big hugs back to you all - fankoo xx

I hope it works out.

He/she'll get their comeuppance, tis a disgusting way to treat a friend and betray them like that. I personally wouldn't confront them as I'd be in danger of going completely off on one and no doubt saying something I'd regret, the silent treatment is usually a good bet. However, if you've only heard this from someone else then, as people have said, tis only fair to give them a chance. Only the one chance mind!

Hope you can start feeling better about it soon, this sort of thing is horrible to deal/cope/try and forget about #hug#

[Shellywoozle]

Well we have made up, I have listened to my mate's side and they are in bits. They are genuinly sorry and have admitted to the majority, maybe 3rd party did a bit of stirring.

Funny thing is I never shouted, never questioned the honesty and acted how I would not normally act in these situations. I used to be fiesty and firey, maybe I am calming down a bit - things will be forgotten as life is too short.

I am still hurting but in time those feelings will pass. But if they ever hurt me again I will not be so nice next time LOL

Hoping I can sleep tonight now and I may actually do some work tomorrow instead of day dreaming and getting angry !

Thanks all I needed to vent last night and you helped ! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Hopefully a Happy ending , if they hurt you again , then HUNT THEM DOWN

[Shellywoozle]

Originally Posted by xXBADGERXx

Hopefully a Happy ending , if they hurt you again , then HUNT THEM DOWN

Oh don't worry they won't get a 2nd chance and I WILL let them know they messed with the wrong Woozle LOL

But we all make mistakes, I made enough in my past. Anyway I have sown my mates gob up with rusty fishing wire so no more jackanories.

Nobody gets a second chance with me I`m afraid to say . I keep very good friends around me who have never said a word out of turn apart from Banter . The last person that crossed me ended up moving away from the area ...... I suppose it was a case of that or get dangled over a rather large cliff ........ but anyway , enough of that