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[Sir Trev]

Sucks about ya Ma Mav but as you say it does mean she can be retired from the road with a reasonable excuse now. With ageing parents myself I'm not looking forward to this sort of conversation if it's required.

Hope the accommodation search is not too painful.

[Bibio]

Yep it solved a problem and things weren't going to get any easier for her. Trying to get her assessed to get her into a home so she has more contact with people and someone to watch over her 24/7

be careful with that Mav. the home will sell your mum's house to pay for the care and often at very under market prices.. unless your father is still alive.

speak to your mum first and explain the situation that might occur and have her sell or transfer the house into a trusting family members name before you put her into care. also you might want to get her to write a will with a solicitor.

[maviczap]

Thanks Bib, the will is in place. We have looked into doing this, but its out of our pocket. Plus there a mortgage on it too.

We'll sell the house at the market rate, pay the mortgage off, and my mum will have whats left.

Its not what we want, but its our only option.

[Bibio]

We'll sell the house at the market rate, pay the mortgage off, and my mum will have whats left.

unfortunately you wont get the chance as it will be in the T&C's of the care home for them to guarantee they get paid. they sell the property, remove all solicitor/sales/marketing costs then what ever is left they will put into your mum's bank account then set up a DD to pay the home fees.

once the money has run out they will transfer your mum into a 'state home'. the state home will then take what ever money that your mum receives in pensions or any other means and the gov top it up. or community care and pay nowt depending on care levels.

£3200 avg a month for nursing home.

http://www.mirror.co.uk/features/how-avoid-care-home-fees-3835475

i'm in the same situation (sort of) with the wife. if i die first the state get everything. mind you i know the wife and she will top herself within a week if it happens.

[maviczap]

She's not going to a nursing/care home yet, we want her to move into a flat in a complex and rent that flat. Within this complex there's a warden, its not a nursing home.

So we can sell her house and clear the debt, and a litle left over for her. If my sister got the facts right, her pensions will cover the rent, with enough left over for food etc. My sisters in charge of this side of things, im looking after the money issues.

One thing that shocked me, is my mum is paying more for her Virgin tv, phone & broadband than we are with Sky, and I'm paying too much! She doesnt even watch movies, so lord knows what shes paying for. Thats criminal. But that'll be sorted this week as I've swapped her provider, and she'll have Freesat.

[Trev B]

Don't know if this could be of any use to you.Last year I went to my solicitor in the uk to see about getting around this having to sell the house should either of us have to go into a nursing home later in life.This is how it panned out. 1. Put it into our two children's names.Fine,but the taxman can say you did it to avoid paying for the care Or if your children get divorced their partners can claim 50% of your children's share. 2.Put it into a trust (no charges ) so that each of our halves are protected against sale of our property should we have to go into care.they can't make you Sell and the other half can live there until they need care or die,then they can claim the money AFTER you've died,BUT if we both have to go in we would have to sell. 3.Sell now and down size and enjoy the rest,4.Sell now and rent and put the money under the mattress and enjoy it. He said number 2 was the best for us so did it,but keep all options open as the law can change and if it does it won't be in our favour.IMO go and have a word with someone who can give professional advice !!!

[maviczap]

Thanks Trev, that's very helpful. Option 2 would be good but there's still the mortgage to clear.

If I could have afforded to take a mortgage out to clear it, I could only gift it to my mum and I'd still be stuffed by option 1 taxman clause.

Option 3 is our best bet.

[Bibio]

here's an interesting one for you. old farmer living in his house and getting on a bit. one day the social work and police turn up and remove him from the house and place him in an institutional care home as in their view he was a danger to himself and they take his house and land off him. the man had no family so nobody could speak up for him. the mad died and shortly after the property was turned into a care home........ you couldn't make it up if you tried. council's, gov, courts, police, solicitors and everything else that are connected in the legal circle are all at it and are a bunch of nasty *******s.

this happens more often than you would think.

[maviczap]

I can believe it Bib

[Bibio]

ikea Espevar bed bases, not as bad to assemble as i thought it was going to be. i got the Hesseng mattress a few week ago and i must say its rather nice. had to get a new base as the old silentnight one was too tall for Mrs B, she had to stand on a step to get on the bed... lol. new base is much better hight.

[maviczap]

Hope it didn't need the slats across the frame like my daughter's did, which we didn't pick up from the isle.

140 mile round trip to get them!

[Bibio]

they come in the box.. you do know the deliver.... btw word of caution, ikea are playing a cash game in that some items are not stocked so you HAVE to pay for delivery as they are not instore items.. £35 please.

[maviczap]

I seem to recall my daughter wanted to choose the bed she wanted, and then we went to the warehouse to pick it up. Due to the stress of Ikea, i missed picking the slats as part of the bed, it wasn't all in one box, and the cashier didn't say " You forgot the slats sir"

[Starlet_gt]

here's an interesting one for you. old farmer living in his house and getting on a bit. one day the social work and police turn up and remove him from the house and place him in an institutional care home as in their view he was a danger to himself and they take his house and land off him. the man had no family so nobody could speak up for him. the mad died and shortly after the property was turned into a care home........ you couldn't make it up if you tried. council's, gov, courts, police, solicitors and everything else that are connected in the legal circle are all at it and are a bunch of nasty *******s.

this happens more often than you would think.
Was he a danger to himself then? If so what did they use to detain him?

[maviczap]

Bored now, crap cold damp weather. Roll on March.

Mrs goes into hospital for an op tomorrow, so lets hope that goes ok

[garynortheast]

Hope it goes smoothly for her Mav. Is she being kept in or is it a one day in and out job?

And yes, roll on spring.

[littleoldman2]

Hope all goes well Maz and yep roll on spring I cannot wait.

[maviczap]

Fingers crossed out on Wednesday, although light duties for a while. As she's part time, no work until April!

[Geodude]

Hope it all goes well Mav.

[Sir Trev]

Hope all's well with Mrs Mav too.

Also echo the cold wet grumbles - spent most of the rainy weekend in the garage rebuilding the bird table (just an excuse to play with the power tools really) and I now have a bit of a sniffle...

[carelesschucca]

Thoughts are with Mrs Mav... You're motion about the weather being carp has been passed... Now how do we actually move everything on to late March?

[maviczap]

Currently sitting in the wars, pre op consent has been done, we've been here for an hour and a half. She's staving and desperate for a cuppa, but can't :-(

My car park ticket runs out in 15min, why can't it be free for folks going in for an op?

I thought I'd be out of here by now, and I'm starving too

[garynortheast]

How's Mrs Mav doing now Mav?

[maviczap]

Thanks for asking Gary

Not too bad, in a bit of discomfort, but nothing that ibuprofen and paracetamol won't help with. She just needs to get mobile, the nurse was trying to get her out of bed. Until she does, she won't get discharged.

As usual no one gets a good nights sleep in hospital, so she's tired, plus they wake you up in the middle of the night to give you your meds and check your blood presure and sats. Food isn't great, its no better than when i was last in!
She should be released tomorrow.

I bought her an Amazon Fire Stick for Christmas, as i knew she'd be stuck in bed for a few days after this op, and ive just set it up. Im impressed with it, so it should keep her amused.

[BanannaMan]

Thoughts and prayers with Mrs Mavi!
Hope she will be fine again soon!!

[maviczap]

Thank Bill

Hopefully this will sort her health issue out

[garynortheast]

Glad she's on the mend now then Mav. Hopefully she'll be back up and about again soon. Stressful time for both of you I should think.

[maviczap]

Yep full on blue asre fly mode right now for me, something lost on my sister, who is still sending unimportant text messages with exclamation marks at the end.

Glad I've got the Org to vent my anger. Notice no exclamation marks.

[Geodude]

Glad to read the Mrs is doing okay Mav

[Geodude]

Oh and dont forget to have a bit of a battery charge for yourself as soon as you can ok, somthing i keep forgetting to do.

[garynortheast]

Oh and dont forget to have a bit of a battery charge for yourself as soon as you can ok, somthing i keep forgetting to do.

Yep, out on the bike for a spin at the first sensible opportunity!

Oops!

[maviczap]

I could do with a break in the sun, fat chance of that. Hey ho

:-)

[Bibio]

glad to hear Mrs Mav is doing ok and give her a hug from me :-)

[maviczap]

glad to hear Mrs Mav is doing ok and give her a hug from me :-)

Cheers Bib, it'll have to be a virtual hug, she's in too much discomfort right now. A good nights sleep is what she really needs

[maviczap]

We'll Mrs Mav is home & completely exhausted, both from lack of sleep, the after effects of the anesthetics,not eating enough and being battered and bruised. So her body is diverting all the resources to the healing process.

Worse still is I've got the inject her once a day for the next 3 days! :smt119

Thanks for all your good wishes. :thumbsup:

[Teejayexc]

Blowpipe?

Pleased to hear she's home and hopefully on the road to recovery.

[maviczap]

I used to be good at darts ;)

[Teejayexc]

I used to be good at darts ;)



:D

Bet you daren't paint a target, "it's a bullseye"!

Or, as Jim Bowen used to say..."keep out of the black and into the red, you get nothing in this game for two in a bed".

:p

[maviczap]

LOL :smt098

[Bibio]

Worse still is I've got the inject her once a day for the next 3 days! :smt119

Thanks for all your good wishes. :thumbsup:

that would be my wife feked then. me and needles dont get on.. well needles and skin to be more precise.

[maviczap]

Ha, well you can call me Dr Mav now :-). First injection administered, and my wife said I did it better than the nurse last night. I used this as my training guide ;)

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-oaL-DxzHsiE/VZ8cumhcCxI/AAAAAAAACm4/MMEKg4iRqo8/s1600/tumblr_mju5ql6D791r1tldho1_1280.png

[littleoldman2]

Great news.

[Sir Trev]

Worse still is I've got the inject her once a day for the next 3 days! :smt119

Thanks for all your good wishes. :thumbsup:


Glad Mrs Mav is on the road to recovery of course but I now have the "giving medication to a cat vs a dog" discussion in my head. Do you have to risk life and limb in order to give the injection or do you just wrap it in bacon and (to mix discussions) toss it like a dart? :confused:

[BanannaMan]

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-oaL-DxzHsiE/VZ8cumhcCxI/AAAAAAAACm4/MMEKg4iRqo8/s1600/tumblr_mju5ql6D791r1tldho1_1280.png








Glad to hear Mrs. Mavi is recovering!

Apparently my wife used the same training guide and followed it more closely!
Had a few hundred shots in the stomach at home and every one felt like this.
Been a year since the last one now and the bruising is ,well, almost gone.

[maviczap]

The ironic thing is, my wife is complaining that the worst pain is coming from her back where the anesthetist stuck the epidural in, which was supposed to help with the pain in her lower half, otherwise she thinks she'd be fine?

[Sir Trev]

Parents and tech. Aaaaarrrrrgggghhhhhhh!!!!!!

I'm in Norfolk trying to explain how to use Skype to my parents. And how to attach files to emails and the most basic things without throttling them. I am being sooooooooo patient but it's wearing really thin now. As far as I'm concerned if something has buttons and is more complicated than a cardigan then septegenarians should not be allowed to have them. We move on to the scanner tomorrow but I may have to go for a long walk first.

My b astard brother gets away without this by hiding in Australia. He's coming over this year and I plan to have a slightly blunt conversation with him about the things he's missing out on.

And breath.....

[maviczap]

My brother only a 5 min walk from my Mum, who's in early stages dementia, but my sister & me are doing the bulk of the stuff for my mum. Ok hes a single dad, but his kids are 19 & 21, and are independent. I'm 20 mins away, my sis is 2 hours away.

With my wife going into hospital & trying to sort stuff out for my mum, my feet haven't touched the ground this week!

I don't know what if anything he's done, hes not in your brothers category, but I know how you feel Sir Trev

[littleoldman2]

Mav, without being rude to your bro I have to say that my 5 kids have all been totally out of my hair at 19.

On a brighter note I'm really looking forward to GM10, Mrs LOM has said to take a Thursday to get part way there and Monday to ride part way home. So a 4 day weekend away. Cannot wait.

So AR?

[Bibio]

Mav, without being rude to your bro I have to say that my 5 kids have all been totally out of my hair at 19.

On a brighter note I'm really looking forward to GM10, Mrs LOM has said to take a Thursday to get part way there and Monday to ride part way home. So a 4 day weekend away. Cannot wait.

So AR?

you getting soft in yer old age :rolleyes:

[littleoldman2]

Nope, Mrs LOM thinks that she may be "bike out" when we get home from a ride to Dubrovnik the Monday before the GM so she wants me to be gentle with her. So only a 1000 miles in the 4 days:D:D

[Bibio]

dont know what i'm doing this year. i will be doing my usual up north but earlier so doubt i'll be doing the GM. CBA with applecross.

[littleoldman2]

Let me know when because I fancy a ride to the north in the spring/summer. If your easy on the dates let me know and we'll sort somat out.

[Bibio]

it'll be near the equinox. its amazing up there at that time of year.

[littleoldman2]

:DSuper We're free the equinox weekend, 21/22 june:D

[andrewsmith]

I'll be hopefully doing something bike related by then.
Hopefully the a meeting with the accountant gets everything go the right direction

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[littleoldman2]

:DWooHoo:D

[maviczap]

Wifes recovery still taking longer than she hoped, wound site bled last night, which freaked her out as she doesnt like blood.

Nurse called and took a swab to get it checked out for nasty bugs, and put a dressing on it.

We're both knackered as neither of us have had a good nights sleep for a week.

But im off for the next 8 days, so thats good

[BanannaMan]

Sleep is over rated!!!
Enjoy your 'Beatles' Week' off!
Hopefully just a minor setback with the Mrs.

[garynortheast]

Hope she gets sorted quickly Mav. Sounds like you could both do with some respite.

[maviczap]

Indeed :-(

[andrewsmith]

Sounds like a holiday somewhere hot is needed

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[maviczap]

Teneriefe would be nice, cycling in the sun, although an old work colleague says we can stay with her in Mallaga. £40 flight from Stanstead :-)

Although Spain is not having great weather at the moment, so we'll wait.

Anywhere warm would be great

[littleoldman2]

Hope all's well soon.

[maviczap]

:thumright: :thumright: :thumright: :thumright: :thumright:

[maviczap]

Wife's feeling better, how do I know, she had enough energy to have a rant about her brother. Almost drained her battery doing it and she was tired later on :-)

[Sir Trev]

Bored, bored, bored... It's only 9 o'clock but i'm stuck indoors on a nice sunny morning waiting for Yodel. Probably my last day off before my new contract starts too so not what I want to be doing. Still got no delivery slot on the tracking site. At this rate I'll end up doing the washing up!

[maviczap]

Just get on with it Sir Trev ;-)

I've got to go to a conference tomorrow, where I'll be lectured about how our business is going to be improved, by marvelous ideas, that probably haven't been thought through properly.

Whats worse, is I had to go to it on my day off, which I'll get back, but its just a PITA

[Sir Trev]

Dreary weather today. Was hoping to get out on the bike this weekend but I guess I'll be faffing about indoors and tidying the garage instead. Hope the rest of you are having better luck.

[Kenzie]

Nope. Weather is pants here too. Need to hook up the optimate to the sv and check it over for mot.

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[garynortheast]

Snowed hard here this morning and layed for a while too. All gone now though and back to the rain. :-(

[BanannaMan]

Be careful what you wish on others.


Had the opportunity this past week to see karma in action on Facebook.
Swift and harsh. Ouch.


A young lady who is the office manager at a local household appliance store was on Facebook calling for her youngest
daughter's teacher to be fired because her child had failed to receive a good behavior award for the first time ever.
She also called on other parents to complain about the teacher and mentioned getting a petition up to have her fired.

24 hours later this same young woman was on Facebook crying because the store she where she worked had burned down and she herself had lost her own job.


I don't know if she saw any irony in that but the wife and I sure did.
Not laughing though. I wish no ill on anyone.


It was a sobering reminder that karma can come back to bite you.
And sometimes it's just as swift and as harsh as you might imagine.

[Geodude]

Is it just me that thinks a school giving out a good behavior award is just wrong :confused: When i was at school you just behaved and didnt need an 'award' for doing what you were told ](*,)

Maybe i'm just old (school) ;)

[andrewsmith]

No your right Geo

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[maviczap]

We never had them at school Geo, although I can say with pride my youngest has had quite a few from all her schools, including her Academy. Its nice that she does get them, but I wouldn't be bothered if they didn't, but despite this she says that the trouble makers don't get disciplined or taken out of class, which disrupts them in school.

Which is completely wrong

[Geodude]

Dont forget too raise a glass for Reeder today, still miss him and his banter alot. :(

[garynortheast]

The box king! Five years gone and still sadly missed here, with all the mad humour and banter.

[Sir Trev]

The box king! Five years gone and still sadly missed here, with all the mad humour and banter.

Very true

[maviczap]

Thanks Geo, I had seen pictures on FB, which reminded me of this date. Seems like a long time ago & still miss the crazy box man, this place is poorer for not having him around

[littleoldman2]

Call me stupid BUT if I had a couple of quid I'd buy it. Always lusted after one when I was 18, married, eldest just born and so skint the rent regularly got missed. Here ya go http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Triumph-X75-Hurricane-1973-/122375307735?hash=item1c7e2301d7:g:INkAAOSw5cNYXj1 m

[maviczap]

Used to see loads of those being re imported to the UK from the States in the 90s, plus Tridents, Bonnie's etc

Someone saw the revival in the Brit bike restoration market, and brought them back by the container load.

[Sir Trev]

How much?! For that sort of cash they could also afford to pay someone to proofread and correct their grammar and spelling.

[Heorot]

I knew Aldi was cheaper than Tesco but yesterday, after a small shop of fresh food and essentials I decided on a line by line comparison, I was shocked. I bought 20 items at Aldi for £24.43. Tesco for the equivalent items came to £31.16 a difference of £6.73. Thats a hell of a saving.

[garynortheast]

Good morning!

[andrewsmith]

Morning

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[maviczap]

Morning, it's the middle of the day, I've been up since 5 :(

[Sir Trev]

Morning has broken.

[garynortheast]

I was up a little later than you then Mav, just after six. Ribs hurting too much to get comfortable enough to carry on sleeping. :-(

[Sir Trev]

Greetings from Amsterdam. I am cream crackered. Been here two days on a staff meeting with my current client (are you sure you want us riff raff contractors along, "yes", alright then) but of course I have several to-do items as a consequence. We did a team building this evening in an escape room - teams of 5 in a locked room solving puzzles in an hour to get out. What a f*&^ing waste of time - there was no way we could have done it without the minders constantly feeding us clues "hold it up to the picture of the rabbits on the wall" what???? Just let us out so we can go and get some dinner - we've been on the go for 12 hours already and I'm f-ing starving!!! I nearly chinned the guy that let us out when he smirked at us not getting the last unfathomable nonsense about the number of corners on the shapes in the mirror in the other part of the room that lit up for five seconds at random that we should have entered to a combination padlock on an unmarked cupboard beside the five other unmarked cupboards that were red herrings.... If your boss suggests doing one of these as a team building tell them to do one!


I'm off to bed. Its a public holiday here in the Netherlands on Thursday and a school holiday so we've been told to expect delays and queues at security at Schipol on our way home tomorrow evening - looking forward to that...

[Geodude]

Sir Trev I've never seen you use expletives in a post before so it must be bad ;)

Could have been worse, this guy might have turned up :D

http://images2.fanpop.com/images/quiz/249000/249225_1246619769017_300_494.jpg

[maviczap]

For any of you with elderly parents, do yourself and them a favour, by getting a Power of Attorney, so that you can look after their affairs, if they can't.

Do one for the money & one for health. I only did the money one last year, but I'm glad I did, as my mum has gone downhill really fast, made worse by a fall and hip fracture last month.

The cost has also been reduced to £89 from £120 I saw in a Hotdeals email. Don't pay for a company to do it for you, its really easy to complete the online form.

Don't leave it for the Probate to sort out

[garynortheast]

Sorry to hear about your mum deteriorating like this Mav. Bit late for me as neither of my parents are alive now. In-laws are though and neither is in the best of health.

[garynortheast]

Double post

[Bibio]

bike has had its annual clean, new tyres getting fitted next week, then an mot.

yes its been late getting my act together this year as i'm suffering from lazyfekeritus

[andrewsmith]

bike has had its annual clean, new tyres getting fitted next week, then an mot.

yes its been late getting my act together this year as i'm suffering from lazyfekeritus
I'm suffering from lack of mancaveitus.
Need to get the shed ordered as I've eventually got cash

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[DomP]

Just to join in I've got a few conditions, moreideasthando****us and lackoftimeitus

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[DomP]

Ha it's edited dosh itus

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[DarrenSV650S]

You've missed a lot of sunny days Bib

[Bibio]

yup i know but tbh my heart has not been in it this year for some reason. knowing my luck it will pizz down every sunday now.

is that smithers thinking of getting another bike?

[andrewsmith]

Tbh it'll be restoration project when I get one. Not got the time to ride

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[Sir Trev]

The weather has now warmed up and I had a nice ride out on Saturday. So why the flip have I now got a sore throat and dripping nose when it's over 20 degrees outside?