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sick and fekin tired of having to update my fekin tv.. i dont want or need to update the thing.. it works so why do i need to update it. and no you cant just press cancel..... AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGG.I feel the same about Windows 10. Autumn update is now due, i wonder what'll break this time?
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I feel the same about Windows 10. Autumn update is now due, i wonder what'll break this time?
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This update doesn't break anything. But it might delete all your files :shock:
Luckypants
05-10-18, 12:19 PM
Following on from my Smile of the Day...
Listening to the rally cars and not being able to go watch because its my turn for on-call! :smt076
Sir Trev
06-10-18, 08:02 PM
And following on from my Smile of the Day...
Twonks on trains who put their muddy shoes on the seats (I noticed in time) and equally annoying gits who spend the entire journey kicking the back of your seat. I'll take the car next time.
I crashed my radio controlled plane this morning :( I think I've finally realised that this is one skill that needs some tuition - there's no room for making mistakes. The take off was ok and I was flying at about 75 feet (too low really), I did a gentle left turn without a problem and then tried to bring it back down wind when gravity stepped in because of what it saw as a violation and the plane met a turnip field at a rather acute angle.
The propeller was smashed and the wings are back into two pieces with a chunk missing out of one aileron. I think it's fixable.
Then a lady pulled up in a land rover and berated me for trespass, fortunately I had asked the farmer (her uncle, as it transpired) for permission but he hadn't mentioned it to her. It ended up in one of those typically British things where we both apologise as much as possible.
Still, she did inform me that there was a flying club in another corner of the airfield and she will text me their number.
It was 49 years ago on the same airfield when I last crashed in another rash "I can do this on my own" moment. Well, apparently, I can't, there are times you need help (and I hate asking).I've always fancied an RC plane but i know crashing and fixing will wind me up, as well as the cost.
I enjoy going to the shows they have round here, so I'll stick to that.
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SV650rules
07-10-18, 09:41 AM
I crashed my radio controlled plane this morning :( I think I've finally realised that this is one skill that needs some tuition - there's no room for making mistakes. The take off was ok and I was flying at about 75 feet (too low really), I did a gentle left turn without a problem and then tried to bring it back down wind when gravity stepped in because of what it saw as a violation and the plane met a turnip field at a rather acute angle.
The propeller was smashed and the wings are back into two pieces with a chunk missing out of one aileron. I think it's fixable.
Then a lady pulled up in a land rover and berated me for trespass, fortunately I had asked the farmer (her uncle, as it transpired) for permission but he hadn't mentioned it to her. It ended up in one of those typically British things where we both apologise as much as possible.
Still, she did inform me that there was a flying club in another corner of the airfield and she will text me their number.
It was 49 years ago on the same airfield when I last crashed in another rash "I can do this on my own" moment. Well, apparently, I can't, there are times you need help (and I hate asking).
You need one (or more ) of these ;)
http://www.theparkpilot.org/stabilization-systems
Some purists would call it cheating, ( https://www.rcgroups.com/forums/showthread.php?2053793-Flight-Stabilizer-YES-OR-NO ) but if it prevents expensive and demoralising crashes - who cares. Have you considered a drone - they have these as standard.. (doubt if they would be controllable otherwise).
There is one in pretty much every cell phone on the planet, that is how the phone knows to rotate the screen when phone is rotated.
Maybe there's hope for me then.
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SV650rules
07-10-18, 10:05 AM
Maybe there's hope for me then.
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you can even get inexpensive satellite ( less than £20) GPS for small planes so that they can come back to you, or you can plot a flight course. Good quality stabilisers can be had for less than £40, but I believe have to be compatible with your RC kit, some can be turned on and off from RC transmitter button during flight, so if you get into trouble or in windy conditions you can 'invoke the stabiliser' to level plane out - sounds good to me. The amount of high tech kit available these days is mind boggling, I crashed a few RC planes more than a few years ago and gave up as being too stupid / uncoordinated to fly them, maybe there is hope for me too ...
https://hobbyking.com/en_us/aircraft/planes/flight-controllers.html?___store=en_us
kaivalagi
08-10-18, 10:32 AM
Get a credit card with the bank you have a current account with first maybe, that might fix your credit history/records?
welcome to the credit merry go round club. you cant get credit if you have not had credit as you dont have a credit score. you cant get a credit score until you start paying bills with direct debit and so on or get credit.. the wheels on the bus go round and round....
i have no debts, own my own home outright, have stayed at the same address for 22 years, have money in the bank and pay all my bills on time every time. do i qualify for a 0% credit card... no. why... as they know i wont default or miss payments so make no money from me.
timwilky
08-10-18, 12:05 PM
Credit Reports. I hated them in America - everytime you wanted anything, even if you didn't want a loan they would run a credit check and, up to a few years ago you had to pay to get the report. Now they are here too, in the US there are 3 (experian, equifax and transunion - and they all have different numbers on you).
I don't have a credit card so I thought I'd get one, only to be rejected, even by Aqua and they give them to anyone. I own a home, have money in the bank, no debts and money coming in; so why? I check my credit report which has a good number but the bank accounts are wrong. They only list one account which I don't have nor ever have had (according to NatWest) and don't list the 3 accounts I do have. In the US it was difficult getting the agencies to change anything on your report without a drawn out battle and surrender of your firstborn, hope it's easier here.
It reminded me of that Black Mirror episode where you had a popularity score and if it was low you were shunned by society (Nosedive).
I once failed a credit check trying to get a mobile phone contract. Own my own house. 30 grand in the current account. 50 grand available on my credit cards. People try to throw interest free credit at me. (scam as a 2% handing charge) report says I am 999 low risk etc. Yet one company somewhere does not like me. Nobody could see why I should have failed. Still got a better deal elsewhere.
timwilky
08-10-18, 12:15 PM
Failed the OCD test and had another telling off from the daughter.
Crime :- I hung out half a dozen towels to dry rather than follow instruction and bung them in the tumble dryer. You can already guess who does and does not pay for electricity round here!
But I did not colour co-ordinate the pegs used. Apparently a peg is not a peg if two are required to hold up a bath towel. If I use a red one. I must use a red one on the other side. I can only use a blue if there is blue on the other side. FFS am I glad I failed that test.
SV650rules
08-10-18, 01:05 PM
Failed the OCD test and had another telling off from the daughter.
Crime :- I hung out half a dozen towels to dry rather than follow instruction and bung them in the tumble dryer. You can already guess who does and does not pay for electricity round here!
But I did not colour co-ordinate the pegs used. Apparently a peg is not a peg if two are required to hold up a bath towel. If I use a red one. I must use a red one on the other side. I can only use a blue if there is blue on the other side. FFS am I glad I failed that test.
Got a sister-in-law who is more OCD than that, the pegs have to match the colour of the washing that they are pegged on to. I know somebody else who has CDO, it is like OCD but the letters are in the correct order, just as they should be !
whats the opposite of ocd? i think i have that.....
garynortheast
08-10-18, 03:59 PM
Opposite of OCD is CGaF.
timwilky
08-10-18, 04:21 PM
;)Opposite of OCD is CGaF.
I am getting slow or too polite it took me 2 seconds of thought to work that one out. But one F missing. Flying
yup sounds like me.. couldneygeeaflyingfuk.
maviczap
08-10-18, 06:35 PM
Opposite of OCD is CGaF.
:winner:
maviczap
08-10-18, 06:36 PM
Busting my balls and not even getting a thank you
punyXpress
08-10-18, 07:12 PM
Thank you, Mav ;)
maviczap
08-10-18, 07:44 PM
Thanks Puny :p
shiftin_gear98
09-10-18, 08:25 AM
Is it time to go home yet? This working lark is ****e.
punyXpress
09-10-18, 08:28 AM
You won't say that Friday ( payday ) ;)
Sir Trev
09-10-18, 10:50 AM
;)
I am getting slow or too polite ...
:smt043 Stop it, you're killing me! :smt046
shiftin_gear98
09-10-18, 02:53 PM
You won't say that Friday ( payday ) ;)
I get paid last Friday of the month, all the bills come out on the 2nd.
I'm practically skint by the 3rd, and repeat every month.
And I had to buy a set of tyres and a new chain and sprockets today.
Road tax end of month too.
Where's the puts gun in mouth emojis?
andrewsmith
09-10-18, 07:52 PM
;)
I am getting slow or too polite it took me 2 seconds of thought to work that one out. But one F missing. FlyingIs the world broken? A Lancashireman being polite and politically correct
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Opposite of OCD is CGaF.
Coffee over keyboard moment!.......... not that you care.
garynortheast
10-10-18, 07:47 AM
Coffee over keyboard moment!.......... not that you care.
I wouldn't worry Bri, with the weather you get it'll be dry again in a few minutes! Sticky, but dry....
BanannaMan
11-10-18, 10:39 PM
Hurricanes.
The last one everyone was prepared but we got next to nothing.
This time no one was prepared and we are getting hammered. Lots of flooding and trees down, power outages and such.
Tree down beside the house and of course it landed on the power lines.
Hurricanes.
The last one everyone was prepared but we got next to nothing.
This time no one was prepared and we are getting hammered. Lots of flooding and trees down, power outages and such.
Tree down beside the house and of course it landed on the power lines.Not good. Frustrating. As long as you're okay.
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garynortheast
12-10-18, 07:00 AM
Hurricanes.
The last one everyone was prepared but we got next to nothing.
This time no one was prepared and we are getting hammered. Lots of flooding and trees down, power outages and such.
Tree down beside the house and of course it landed on the power lines.
Bugger! Hope you're all ok Bill.
littleoldman2
12-10-18, 10:27 AM
Bugger! Hope you're all ok Bill.
Me to.
maviczap
12-10-18, 10:45 AM
Stay safe Bill, gonna send my pal in Orlando an email
hope you get power soon Bill. they do say that people look better in candlelight.. runs and hides :-)
head & shoulders has just lost a customer. sick and tired of them messing with it for the sake of pouncing it up for poooftres. was not happy about the change the last time but at least i was sort of warned by the packaging change. not they have just changed the contents but kept the same packaging... fek right aff.
why cant these companies keep the original but offer alternatives for the "fashion conscious" asswipes.
there used to be just head & shoulders now you have to walk along an isle for half an hour to find the right one. there are ones for men and women etc.etc. its a fekin joke.
head & shoulders has just lost a customer. sick and tired of them messing with it for the sake of pouncing it up for poooftres. was not happy about the change the last time but at least i was sort of warned by the packaging change. not they have just changed the contents but kept the same packaging... fek right aff.
why cant these companies keep the original but offer alternatives for the "fashion conscious" asswipes.
there used to be just head & shoulders now you have to walk along an isle for half an hour to find the right one. there are ones for men and women etc.etc. its a fekin joke.I think it's called Diluting the Brand. I agree with you.
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I think it's called Diluting the Brand. I agree with you.
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In this case, the more dilute it is, the better.
i'm not brand conscious per se but the brands i'm loyal too i would like them to stay loyal to their customers. i dont like change and i like my stuff full strength and not ponsified.
Red ones
12-10-18, 06:03 PM
People who keep asking me to change doors on buildings so that mopeds can't get in.
The same people drive in to work with bikes filtering through stupidly small gaps (and I'm on one of them). Why don't they get the fact that if you can walk through it then a moped can get through too?
People who keep asking me to change doors on buildings so that mopeds can't get in.
The same people drive in to work with bikes filtering through stupidly small gaps (and I'm on one of them). Why don't they get the fact that if you can walk through it then a moped can get through too?
Just stick a sign up saying "no mopeds"
Or, really big magnets in the door frame.
Steps.
Chicane.
Are these landlords? Video surveillance.
Littlepeahead
15-10-18, 04:43 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySBxMMidbEg
What they need is SUPERGRANNY! And her magic handbag. She's a ginger, never annoy a ginger with a large bag.
Red ones
15-10-18, 05:27 PM
Just stick a sign up saying "no mopeds"
Or, really big magnets in the door frame.
Steps.
Chicane.
Are these landlords? Video surveillance.
Sadly armed robbers don't worry about 'No Moped' signs and wheelchair users tend to complain about steps etc.
Video surveillance is great for watching it over again and, boy, do we have cameras!
Working on the magnets - just hoping not too many people have pacemakers.
keith_d
15-10-18, 07:17 PM
If it really matters use a set of welded steel railings to make a chicane outside the door. People and wheelchairs can turn through 180 degrees in a small space, mopeds can't.
Better still add a narrow trough along the center with spikes at the bottom. Cover it with a steel plate which pivots when more than 150kg is placed on it. This should be located immediately after the 'No Mopeds' sign.
littleoldman2
15-10-18, 07:46 PM
I know moped crime's bad down there but Burglaries??
Better still add a narrow trough along the center with spikes at the bottom. Cover it with a steel plate which pivots when more than 150kg is placed on it. This should be located immediately after the 'No Mopeds' sign.
:winner: Except that the sign would have to read:
"no mopeds, deliveries or bodybuilders
or fat people
on pain of death
or free acupuncture"
maviczap
16-10-18, 08:25 PM
Bloody electric trains, overhead power lines down between Reading and Paddington. Now on a slow train to Waterloo, I'll miss my connection, so hopefully I will make the 2300 home at 0055
Or a hotel in London. Been on the go since 0700
punyXpress
16-10-18, 09:39 PM
Bloody electric trains, overhead power lines down between Reading and Paddington. Now on a slow train to Waterloo, I'll miss my connection, so hopefully I will make the 2300 home at 0055
Or a hotel in London. Been on the go since 0700
Not the pikeys at it again ?
maviczap
17-10-18, 07:55 AM
Nah just our old overhead lines. Ironically I was on a diesel train!
Sir Trev
17-10-18, 09:06 AM
You'd think that such long established technology would be largely foolproof by now. We lagged decades behind most of Europe and many other advanced nations with overhead power for trains but still it causes problems for a route that's only recently had them installed. You don't hear about it failing all the time on the c2c or SouthEast services, or the East Coast Mainline, so why is the GWR Mainline such a problem area?
Red ones
17-10-18, 01:38 PM
ECM to Peterborough frequently has problems.
Adam Ef
17-10-18, 01:46 PM
Went to do TPS adjustment today. Warmed engine up. Dealer mode wire at the ready. popped up tank. Dealer mode on, restarted bike and went to undo the TPS bolt with one of my seven T25 torx tools. Only to see that it's a security T25 ! Looked through my tools and all seven I have are not security.
Pack bike back up and back into the garage and head out around local shops to get a security T25. A few shops later and I've had to buy a whole set of bits, so I now have three full sets and plenty of individual torx tools in various sizes. More money than I wanted to spend, but at least I can now do the job.
Back to garage, bike out, warm it up, tank up etc and loosen off the TPS bolt. The only thing I can get in there with is a small socket wrench, with 1/4" socket which holds the T25 security bit nicely, although it's not magnetic... at this point you might guess where this is going. A few adjustments back and forwards proving you only need really really small adjustments to make a big difference on the TPS. Whenever it looks good on the dash, doing up the bolt on the TPS seems to send it off again. So a bit of luck and guessing how much the bolt tightening affects it and I'm nearly there.. until.... you guessed it, the bit drops out of the end of the socket and dissappears down into the engine.
Engine is hot so I can't feel around. I've just spent the best part of an hour with a torch looking around through all crevices in the engine, trying to see where the T25 security bit has dropped to and I can't find it at all. Now waiting for engine to cool more so I can feel around inside. In short.... Aaaaaargh!
maviczap
17-10-18, 03:48 PM
You'd think that such long established technology would be largely foolproof by now. We lagged decades behind most of Europe and many other advanced nations with overhead power for trains but still it causes problems for a route that's only recently had them installed. You don't hear about it failing all the time on the c2c or SouthEast services, or the East Coast Mainline, so why is the GWR Mainline such a problem area?
ECM to Peterborough frequently has problems.
Obviously we've invested in the wrong type of overhead lines!
Mondays train was delayed getting into London by poor track conditions ( leaves on the line!) and an underpowered engine (an electric unit!)
chris8886
17-10-18, 08:03 PM
my dicky ticker's gone on the wonk again! so am sat in hospital in London again. on the positive side, it looks like the operation that I was due to have has been moved up in timescale to the next few days. just annoying that it seems to take something like this to happen to get them to do it!
my dicky ticker's gone on the wonk again! so am sat in hospital in London again. on the positive side, it looks like the operation that I was due to have has been moved up in timescale to the next few days. just annoying that it seems to take something like this to happen to get them to do it!
i know exactly how you feel :smt039 GWS ;)
BanannaMan
17-10-18, 10:05 PM
my dicky ticker's gone on the wonk again! so am sat in hospital in London again. on the positive side, it looks like the operation that I was due to have has been moved up in timescale to the next few days. just annoying that it seems to take something like this to happen to get them to do it!
Hope all goes well and they have you sorted soon!
Geodude
18-10-18, 07:22 AM
hope all goes well and they have you sorted soon!
+1 gws
SV650rules
18-10-18, 08:54 AM
Obviously we've invested in the wrong type of overhead lines!
Mondays train was delayed getting into London by poor track conditions ( leaves on the line!) and an underpowered engine (an electric unit!)
Did anyone see the documentary about the winter of 1962/3 a few months ago ? There were clips of steam locomotives traveling through deep snow without it seemed too much problem. Electric trains can be stopped by either snow on the track or ice and snow on overhead lines (it insulates them ). I hate to think how we would have fared in WW2 if we had been using either diesel or electric locomotives ( or even diesel electric ), it would either have meant using up precious oil ( that we did not have ) that was needed for war effort or if the enemy had just managed to hit one power station / or even a power sub-station supplying 25Kv to trains they could have bought railways to a full stop over large areas. Many countries around the world continued to use steam trains well after us because either their network was unsuitable to be electrified, the sheer cost, or they had plenty of coal and wood but no oil. Or they had resident pikeys that would nick the copper wires LOL
punyXpress
18-10-18, 09:52 AM
" Electric trains can be stopped by either snow on the track or ice and snow on overhead lines (it insulates them ). " . .
. . .or the sheer weight of ice & snow brings the lines down.
Mention of deep snow reminds me of attending the Dragon Rally in north wales.
The snow was above telegraph poles on the Horseshoe Pass:
" Riding Maicoletta scooters a pal and I went up the pass as it seemed the most direct route. We saw car roofs above the snow and then just radio aerials.
Eventually the only tracks were the trials sidecar in John Ebbrell's article so we followed them. When we reached the point where he turned round (he had more sense than us) we did another 20 yards and then had to turn back ourselves because the snow was above the telegraph poles and we would have no idea where we were.
When we got to the crossroads at the northern end after a long detour we realised we couldn't have got down anyway - the Horseshoe road was a solid wall of snow about 12 feet high! "
That was in 1963, so only 55+ year olds have ever experienced REAL snow !
chris8886
18-10-18, 03:48 PM
That was in 1963, so only 55+ year olds have ever experienced REAL snow !
unless you've been abroad skiing/snowboarding?!
Adam Ef
18-10-18, 04:50 PM
Or have lived abroad.
unless you've been abroad skiing/snowboarding?!
That was in 1963, so only 55+ year olds have ever experienced REAL snow !
maviczap
18-10-18, 08:18 PM
my dicky ticker's gone on the wonk again! so am sat in hospital in London again. on the positive side, it looks like the operation that I was due to have has been moved up in timescale to the next few days. just annoying that it seems to take something like this to happen to get them to do it!
FFS get well soon
garynortheast
18-10-18, 09:01 PM
my dicky ticker's gone on the wonk again! so am sat in hospital in London again. on the positive side, it looks like the operation that I was due to have has been moved up in timescale to the next few days. just annoying that it seems to take something like this to happen to get them to do it!
Hope that gets sorted really quickly for you! Definitely not what you want to be dealing with. Take it steady and gws.
Sir Trev
19-10-18, 10:36 AM
... so only 55+ year olds have ever experienced REAL snow !
I've encountered the "wrong type of snow" that caused rail chaos on Shrove Tuesday back in 1991. Unfortunately I'd been to a funeral in London of a fellow biker who'd lost her battle with cancer and after seeing Poppy on to the train at Paddington I headed for Victoria mid-afternoon and my train back to Brighton (was still a student then). We got as far as Burgess Hill or so with the train bucking and crashing about as the third rail pickup shoe kept getting snow build up and losing contact. After sitting in BH for a while the driver came over the PA and said he'd try and get through. It was very uncomfortable and we just made it - the last of the day to do so. Services were all cancelled after that as snow continued to fall really hard. Odd day. Got soaking wet feet by the time I'd walked home (no taxis anywhere), had a drink and some pancakes made by my flatmate, and then we built an enormous snowman in the middle of the road, which after a few more drinks became a snow woman... The wet sticky type of snow that day was also getting sucked into air ducts on the electric overhead locos that was causing them to shut down and fail so I was lucky to have made it through at all! Perfect snow for sculpting and snowball fights but terrible for trains.
shiftin_gear98
21-10-18, 01:59 PM
Kids birthday parties. Ones that aren't your kids.
God they are ****ing awful.
Red ones
21-10-18, 02:42 PM
Are you sitting on a used car tyre in the street while the kids play on the pavement? If not, don't complain. I had kids go to one of those.
I soon got an urgent phone call and we had to leave.
shiftin_gear98
21-10-18, 02:50 PM
That does sound bad, but no it's worse. There is an entertainer call Mr Happy. And he keeps getting the kid's chant. Mr Happy makes me happy. Which is a, wrong on too many levels. But b, he's really ****ing ****. I've never seen my 8 year old look so bored.
I'm awaiting the results of my MRI after discovering my high PSA and my thoughts turned to making a Will. My children are American, I have a son and a daughter but my daughter and I have been estranged for over 10 years after she sent me a vitriolic email demanding I stay out of her life.
I have discovered that it is practically impossible to exclude her from my Will. It can be written in but since I have US assets she could contest it in their courts and, most likely, win (and the US court would also recognise the UK assets). So much for honouring your last request on Earth! What a messed up system.
If I try and leave my house to my son now then it, too, would be taken into account as would paying off his student loans and it would be deducted from his final inheritance when the court rebalanced the distribution. You can't win.
The solicitor has said I have to leave her a "non derisory" amount but has, so far, declined to specify an amount. What I had intended to leave her was a laminated copy of the hostile email she sent me (and I have given that to the solicitor already).
I'm awaiting the results of my MRI after discovering my high PSA and my thoughts turned to making a Will. My children are American, I have a son and a daughter but my daughter and I have been estranged for over 10 years after she sent me a vitriolic email demanding I stay out of her life.
I have discovered that it is practically impossible to exclude her from my Will. It can be written in but since I have US assets she could contest it in their courts and, most likely, win (and the US court would also recognise the UK assets). So much for honouring your last request on Earth! What a messed up system.
If I try and leave my house to my son now then it, too, would be taken into account as would paying off his student loans and it would be deducted from his final inheritance when the court rebalanced the distribution. You can't win.
The solicitor has said I have to leave her a "non derisory" amount but has, so far, declined to specify an amount. What I had intended to leave her was a laminated copy of the hostile email she sent me (and I have given that to the solicitor already).
You’re coming across as a really horrible person.
What efforts have you made to reconcile with your daughter?
You are supposed to be the parent, you know, the adult in the relationship.
Even if there is more to this story, surely leaving her a non derisory amount would not be the end of the world. Would your son really grudge her it? Or would he rather not have a court case after your death fighting over the spoils.
Why don’t you grow up and take this wake up call to mend your relationships.
You’re coming across as a really horrible person.
You are supposed to be the parent, you know, the adult in the relationship.
I never claimed to be a good person. My daughter is 26. I would like to reconcile but honestly as the years go by it means less and less. You obviously have not seen the email she sent, it was the most hostile, hate filled piece of writing that I have ever received. Six months after she sent it she asked why we were no longer talking, I explained about her email which she couldn't recall. I sent her a copy of her own email, asked for an apology and never heard anything since.
The reason she sent it was that she went to my father and asked for money for a car. The only time she spoke to my parents was when she wanted money and she never thanked them when she received any. This was not how I (tried) to raise her. I called her on it, asked her to stop begging for money and the email was the result.
If I am a horrible person then it's genetic and runs in the family, unfortunately. On the other hand I never had parents, teachers, counsellors calling my parents about my behaviour as a child, like they did with her.
I realise it's easy to make a judgement based on one brief posting and I don't take offence on your comments but there's a lot of history here, a lot of dirty laundry which I'm not prepared to air to indicate what kind of person I am or am not.
The fact remains that I do not understand why a person's last request in life should not be honoured if they are in sound mind.
@seeker I’m still sad that you want to wash your hands of her.
I would give anything to be in contact with my children.
My suggestion before I read about your solicitor would have been a token bequest to ensure that the courts knew that you had not forgotten her but that you had actively considered her and chosen to give her this amount.
Whatever you do I would make sure your son is in agreement with it.
SV650rules
22-10-18, 09:44 AM
I never claimed to be a good person. My daughter is 26. I would like to reconcile but honestly as the years go by it means less and less. You obviously have not seen the email she sent, it was the most hostile, hate filled piece of writing that I have ever received. Six months after she sent it she asked why we were no longer talking, I explained about her email which she couldn't recall. I sent her a copy of her own email, asked for an apology and never heard anything since.
The reason she sent it was that she went to my father and asked for money for a car. The only time she spoke to my parents was when she wanted money and she never thanked them when she received any. This was not how I (tried) to raise her. I called her on it, asked her to stop begging for money and the email was the result.
If I am a horrible person then it's genetic and runs in the family, unfortunately. On the other hand I never had parents, teachers, counsellors calling my parents about my behaviour as a child, like they did with her.
I realise it's easy to make a judgement based on one brief posting and I don't take offence on your comments but there's a lot of history here, a lot of dirty laundry which I'm not prepared to air to indicate what kind of person I am or am not.
The fact remains that I do not understand why a person's last request in life should not be honoured if they are in sound mind.
There is a very true saying that 'you can choose your friends but you cannot choose your family'. I have seen grown kids be horrible and selfish to parents and expect unconditional love (and money when they ask for it) in return, some of them in our extended family so I have sympathy with you Seeker.
There is a very true saying that 'you can choose your friends but you cannot choose your family'. I have seen grown kids be horrible and selfish to parents and expect unconditional love (and money when they ask for it) in return, some of them in our extended family so I have sympathy with you Seeker.
Completely agree here. You can be nice for a while but when you're taken advantage of every single time, you have to stop, as it becomes self-inflicted injury when you know very well what will happen. Holding yourself to a higher standard than anyone else involved just makes you an easy target.
From the perspective of some, no longer being nice appears as being nasty, especially when viewed out of context.
I speak from experience. Fortunately not with my children.
I also agree it's a daft system. You should be able to leave your possessions to anyone you choose. You could always go Egyptian style and get them buried with you :D
timwilky
22-10-18, 10:38 AM
I have bought an asbestos suit case. It is all going with me.
you can leave what you like to whom you like without contention.. its all to do with how much your willing (see what i did there) to pay for your will and solicitor. a bog standard will costs around £400-500, but good proper wills cost £ks.
other things you might like to consider is the costs of carrying out the closure of your estate by your appointee/executor. they need a money pot for things like selling the house, extra funeral costs, death certificates and solicitors fees etc.etc.
personally i dont care what happens to my estate when i shuffle off as long as it goes to my family and not the local council.
maviczap
22-10-18, 11:18 AM
I'm awaiting the results of my MRI after discovering my high PSA and my thoughts turned to making a Will. My children are American, I have a son and a daughter but my daughter and I have been estranged for over 10 years after she sent me a vitriolic email demanding I stay out of her life.
I have discovered that it is practically impossible to exclude her from my Will. It can be written in but since I have US assets she could contest it in their courts and, most likely, win (and the US court would also recognise the UK assets). So much for honouring your last request on Earth! What a messed up system.
If I try and leave my house to my son now then it, too, would be taken into account as would paying off his student loans and it would be deducted from his final inheritance when the court rebalanced the distribution. You can't win.
The solicitor has said I have to leave her a "non derisory" amount but has, so far, declined to specify an amount. What I had intended to leave her was a laminated copy of the hostile email she sent me (and I have given that to the solicitor already).
My mum changed her will when my father died, and excluded one of my sisters from the state.
Similar circumstances, nasty email exchanges, and she didn't attend my dads funeral, despite the fact she loved my dad a lot.
It was the final straw for my mum, as this sister was given much more by my parents, than the rest of us.
As the executor of my mum's will I had to deal with giving my sister the news, as my mum hadn't told her of this change.
That was my mum's decision, like it or not
maviczap
22-10-18, 11:19 AM
I have bought an asbestos suit case. It is all going with me.
That's the best reply, made me smile
I have bought an asbestos suit case. It is all going with me.
yes, but if you're going in that direction you'll get asbestosis (though that may be the least of your problems).
I'll save you a seat.
punyXpress
22-10-18, 12:16 PM
. . and asbestos gores all soggy in a dark, deep, wet grave?
timwilky
22-10-18, 02:20 PM
My dad changed his will 3 days before he died, instead of the estate going to his children, the lot went to his wife.
They had been together since she was our baby sitter in 1964 and they married in 79.
It caused a lot of friction in the family, our inheritance stolen by the woman who had stolen our father. The thing is, whilst my father was wealthy, the source of his business was a loan from my maternal grand father that he never repaid and was recovered by that side of the family not paying out to my mother when he died.
2 of my brothers and my sister have not spoken to "Her" since my father funeral and have a real grudge against me as the executor.
They will not understand that in his last days he realised his will made many years ago did not benefit his wife, as it stood she would have inherited a small pension. We his children were all financially independent. We did not need his brass. She needed a home/income.
As things now stand, my eldest daughter and I hold power of attorney (well being/financial) for "Her". I am also her executor. I know she has made large loans to her family that were never honored with one nephew saying knock it out of my inheritance, a large loan of several hundred thousand was made to prop up her brother in laws business that went under, they sold the business property and are using that as a pension rather than meeting the company debt. This forcing her to remake her will. I am under instruction that on her death. No one. Neither my fathers family, or her family get into her house. I bet the will, will make interesting reading!
Where there is a will, there is a family. Deserving or not!
timwilky
22-10-18, 02:23 PM
. . and asbestos gores all soggy in a dark, deep, wet grave?
will be toasty were I go. Sodding off to the sun to live out my days once I retire. Come back skint and tell the welfare to house me and send someone to wipe my ass/feed me.
My dad changed his will 3 days before he died, instead of the estate going to his children, the lot went to his wife.
They had been together since she was our baby sitter in 1964 and they married in 79.
It caused a lot of friction in the family, our inheritance stolen by the woman who had stolen our father. The thing is, whilst my father was wealthy, the source of his business was a loan from my maternal grand father that he never repaid and was recovered by that side of the family not paying out to my mother when he died.
2 of my brothers and my sister have not spoken to "Her" since my father funeral and have a real grudge against me as the executor.
They will not understand that in his last days he realised his will made many years ago did not benefit his wife, as it stood she would have inherited a small pension. We his children were all financially independent. We did not need his brass. She needed a home/income.
As things now stand, my eldest daughter and I hold power of attorney (well being/financial) for "Her". I am also her executor. I know she has made large loans to her family that were never honored with one nephew saying knock it out of my inheritance, a large loan of several hundred thousand was made to prop up her brother in laws business that went under, they sold the business property and are using that as a pension rather than meeting the company debt. This forcing her to remake her will. I am under instruction that on her death. No one. Neither my fathers family, or her family get into her house. I bet the will, will make interesting reading!
Where there is a will, there is a family. Deserving or not!That would make a great TV drama. Families eh!
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Littlepeahead
22-10-18, 09:37 PM
Nice to have money to fight over. My dad died leaving me £89,000 in credit card debts and loans to sort out. That took months. He also left my mum, his ex wife who'd been departed from for 28 years but not divorced, with a mortgage of £85,000 she didn't know about. He'd switched it to interest only. She now has dementia and all her pension has to go on paying the mortgage because dad cashed in the endowment and his pension died with him. She's 74 and there's still 8 years left to pay. If she needs care the house will have to be sold, but that will make my sister and two children, who all at the moment look after her, homeless.
I'm not expecting any inheritance!
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maviczap
23-10-18, 06:29 AM
if there are dependants living at your mum's house, then the council pick up the care bill, they can't force dependants out to enable the property to be sold, especially as there's still an outstanding mortgage and no savings.
obviously the mortgage will still have to be paid
My mum had an equity release mortgage which was interest only, which we only found out about when my sister was digging through her paperwork, that was £50000 plus a nice £5000 credit card account in the red.
So you're not alone with parents leaving you with problems to sort out
Nice to have money to fight over. My dad died leaving me £89,000 in credit card debts and loans to sort out. That took months. He also left my mum, his ex wife who'd been departed from for 28 years but not divorced, with a mortgage of £85,000 she didn't know about. He'd switched it to interest only. She now has dementia and all her pension has to go on paying the mortgage because dad cashed in the endowment and his pension died with him. She's 74 and there's still 8 years left to pay. If she needs care the house will have to be sold, but that will make my sister and two children, who all at the moment look after her, homeless.
I'm not expecting any inheritance!
Good grief! That is awful. Makes my gripe pale into insignificance.
I hope you win the lottery and life improves for you.
Littlepeahead
23-10-18, 05:24 PM
if there are dependants living at your mum's house, then the council pick up the care bill, they can't force dependants out to enable the property to be sold, especially as there's still an outstanding mortgage and no savings.
obviously the mortgage will still have to be paid
My mum had an equity release mortgage which was interest only, which we only found out about when my sister was digging through her paperwork, that was £50000 plus a nice £5000 credit card account in the red.
So you're not alone with parents leaving you with problems to sort outFrom what I understand, dependants are only a husband or wife, or child under 18 of the person needing care, not grand children. My sister and her kids have never lived anywhere else.
If mum goes into care her pension has to be spent on the care home. My sister has no income to pay the mortgage and cannot claim housing benefit. So either way she ends up homeless. Then the council will have to re home her at huge cost, and mum's equity in the house isn't much so that would soon be gone on care fees.
It's a right mess.
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Biker Biggles
23-10-18, 06:01 PM
Sometimes its worth bearing in mind that "inheritance" is actually money owned by someone else and not by the inheritees. It is not anyones right to get some elses money when they die, its just a bonus if you do.
maviczap
23-10-18, 07:04 PM
From what I understand, dependants are only a husband or wife, or child under 18 of the person needing care, not grand children. My sister and her kids have never lived anywhere else.
If mum goes into care her pension has to be spent on the care home. My sister has no income to pay the mortgage and cannot claim housing benefit. So either way she ends up homeless. Then the council will have to re home her at huge cost, and mum's equity in the house isn't much so that would soon be gone on care fees.
It's a right mess.
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Indeed a right mess, and you're right, your mum's pension would all be taken by the council for her care costs. They'd pay the rest of there weren't any savings or disposable assets.
shiftin_gear98
24-10-18, 07:38 AM
"Polite" Bike riders.....
GGGGRRRRRRR.
****s.
That is all.
shiftin_gear98
24-10-18, 07:45 AM
I'll elaborate. (Rant mode on)
They are bad enough in the summer time when clearly visible. I have this numpty on my route some mornings who goes the full monty. BMW police style motor bike, blue running light. Dressed to look like a prat pretending to be a policeman.
Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against actual policemen.
Just retards who ride along in the now pitch black at 6.20 am doing 60 on a 70 dual carriageway so that all the cagers **** themselves at the last minute because they were too busy watching porn on their phones.
Who then slam on their brakes and nearly cause a pile up.
Polite indeed - it should say "I'm a W****R" across their back.
(Rant mode off)
Have a good day Org.
IJust retards who ride along in the now pitch black at 6.20 am doing 60 on a 70 dual carriageway so that all the cagers **** themselves at the last minute because they were too busy watching porn on their phones.
Who then slam on their brakes and nearly cause a pile up.
So the actual problem is the drivers?
kaivalagi
24-10-18, 09:37 AM
So the actual problem is the drivers?
I'd say the problem is the drivers and the muppet dressed up as police :)
Sir Trev
24-10-18, 10:51 AM
Have just watched one of the cops'n'camera shows on Channel 5, new series, recorded from Monday I think. It was a themed "scare" episode about bikes. Although they showed one bikecam scene where a blind cage turns right, into the path of the bike, the episode made out the majority of accidents were rider error or recklessness. What annoyed me most was a crash where an overtaking biker was almost killed by a car pulling right out of a side road - the bike was probably going too fast, should not have been overtaking at a junction and poor obs and the car driver admitted she was on the school run and not looking out for anyone except her son in the back* but could not see beyond the cars that were to her right and just pulled out. The upshot is the police decided neither of these two were especially to blame and no action was taken. WHAT ABOUT THE DOZY TWOT THAT FLASHED/WAVED THE CAR OUT WITHOUT CHECKING TO SEE IF IT WAS SAFE TO DO SO????? Didn't even mention this. Pathetic.
*people like this boil my urine. And to admit it on camera should be grounds for revocation of licence in a perfect world.
shiftin_gear98
24-10-18, 11:52 AM
So the actual problem is the drivers?
Ophic - please tell me you are not one of them.
We all know cagers are a breed to themselves in their self righteous metal bubbles, they believe they do no wrong. Ok so they are at fault for not paying attention to the road in the dark, the lure of porn on their phones is too strong.
However I'm going to suggest that if there wasn't a ****ing retard trying to style it up like a copper then there wouldn't have been the situation in the first place.
"polite" = t####r
Now if only one of those cagers - the ones in the big cage with all those round wheel things could just run him over.
i agree about "polite" riders being asssswwipes but just think if it was a police bike.
your obviously complaining as you likely had to "wake up" this morning due to someone braking hard in front of you. to me this sounds like you were going too fast as was the person in front of you... or am i wrong...
kaivalagi
24-10-18, 12:41 PM
WHAT ABOUT THE DOZY TWOT THAT FLASHED/WAVED THE CAR OUT WITHOUT CHECKING TO SEE IF IT WAS SAFE TO DO SO????? Didn't even mention this. Pathetic.
Funny you should mention that....my only accident on a bike so far was where someone flashed another motorist to come out from a side road whilst I was filtering / overtaking them in queued traffic, neither party did any form of check as they expected the other to at a guess and I, as a new rider at the time, anchored on to avoid a collision too hard and lost control (non-ABS bike)...
Ophic - please tell me you are not one of them.
polite? no, no-one has ever accused me of that, and they irritate the *bleep* out of me too.
but...
if you're gonna point the finger, point it in the right place. Root cause.
shiftin_gear98
24-10-18, 12:46 PM
Lance, True it could have been a real police bike. And yes I'm not the most awake at 6.20.
I did see it about to happen though, I think I spotted him before the cagers.
I knew it was him, I just hadn't planned to slow down.
And I never ride too fast - I own an SV.
WHAT ABOUT THE DOZY TWOT THAT FLASHED/WAVED THE CAR OUT WITHOUT CHECKING TO SEE IF IT WAS SAFE TO DO SO?????
Pretty sure the Highway Code deals with this reasonably explicitly. I'm actually appalled that in some cases the "flasher" has been held partly to blame. The law has become woolly and this makes things even less certain on the road.
Make your own observations.
maviczap
24-10-18, 03:17 PM
Trains again!!!
Went to drop my daughter off at the station, only to find her train had been cancelled. No explanation, no replacement bus.
As it's half term there were loads of people with their kids wanting to use the train.
I had to take my daughter to Uni
No wonder people don't use public transport
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